FC Bucks 2006 ECNL - Girls

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FC Bucks now has the recipe to once and for all end this thread, and decisively end all of the controversy surrounding the FC Bucks 06 ECNL team. It is so simple, that it is crazy to think they wouldn't do it.

All they have to do is publicly announce that they are making the necessary changes to this team and within the club to ensure points 1-4 below are being taken care of.

Again, none of this should be controversial for all parents (unless you are protecting your little Mia from hard work and getting cut). In fact ALL parents (except BB) should be begging the club to take these steps ASAP:

1. Training 2-3 times a week on turf with a paid professional coach.
2. No interference from an unpaid, unqualified dad coach.
3. All coaching decisions in terms of PT and positions made by a professional coach, with no parental involvement.
4. The best players make the team. PERIOD.

Agreed it really is just that simple!

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Did you go to the town hall last night? What was discussed?

I think you are putting too much into all this. Most people if not happy with a club will move on to the next club. Clubs don’t need to cater to any demands. They know if people aren’t happy they’ll move on to the next. It’s very common. This club isn’t losing customers. They field multiple teams at every age group.

Good point

Anyone on what was discussed at town hall?

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Good point

Anyone on what was discussed at town hall?

Nothing of any substance - it was literally a history of the club and where they want to take the club, no mention of any changes except to raise fees to help pay for the professional coaches starting at U9

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Good point

Anyone on what was discussed at town hall?

This club is losing customers. Bigly. Known fact.

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This club is losing customers. Bigly. Known fact.

If that’s true they may change things up.

But you posting a list of demands on talking soccer is probably going to do a whole lot of nothing.

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If that’s true they may change things up.

But you posting a list of demands on talking soccer is probably going to do a whole lot of nothing.

since we all agree i trust each person will make their requests known

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since we all agree i trust each person will make their requests known

I think most people just want what they pay for and what was promised in the offer letter. It’s really just that simple.

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I think most people just want what they pay for and what was promised in the offer letter. It’s really just that simple.

How you gonna accomplish that?

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How you gonna accomplish that?

It's not hard. Leave. Stop rewarding bad behavior; put them out of business ... plenty of other fish in the sea. If your mechanic told you he replaced your transmission and then it fails a week later, are you going to pay him more money to replace it again?

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Ask her maybe she’s okay amd it’s just YOUR ego

My daughter just finished her junior year of basketball.

# of varsity minutes played all year—very few

# of varsity points scored—0

But I’ve never been more proud of her.

However, let me be truly honest for a minute if I may. When the season started, I was struggling. I mean, I was on the Strug. Gle. Bus. I’ve never had a kid sit on the bench before. I have had 2 kids go on to play college sports, by golly. My kids don’t sit on the bench. Now let me be perfectly clear. I was NOT mad at the coach. I did NOT hold it against any other player. I was honest with myself about her abilities, but I was just plain irritated because I didn’t know how to be the parent of a kid who didn’t play. I didn’t know how to get excited for the team when my kid wasn’t on the floor. It was a new role for me, and I didn’t like it. BUT what really bothered me the most was that it seemed to NOT bother her. How could it not bother her? It irritated me beyond belief. I just didn’t understand. After about 2 weeks into the season, I couldn’t bite my tongue any longer, so I finally asked her, “Does it not bother you that you aren’t getting to play?” Her response rocked my world.

“I mean, yeah, I’d love to play more, but Mom, I know what my role is on the team, and I’m okay with that. I’m having fun.”

Mic drop. Wisdom beyond her years...this 17 year old. After hearing those words from her, I began watching her on the bench of the varsity games with a new perspective. She was always cheering, always engaged, always fulfilling her role. Before the game, I watched her encourage her team. After a time out, I watched her exhort her teammates going back out on the floor. During the ups and downs of each game, she was always doing her part to lift her team up. She worked hard in practice, and I never heard her say a negative word about her coaches or her teammates. She knew exactly what her role was, and she took fulfilling it seriously. My heart. Oh my heart.

Kids and parents today have somehow bought into this belief system that to really be a valuable member of the team you have to see a certain number of minutes on the court or the field, that to really be something you have to be the one scoring the points or making the plays. Too many kids and parents think the only role worthy to be had is that of a starter or even the lead scorer, that the roles of benchwarmers and scout team are less than. Those poor unfortunate souls. Playing time, points scored, steals made....these are crucial and exciting parts to play, and yes, these are the things that ultimately win or lose the game. BUT these are not the measuring stick by which we should use to determine the value of each role and most importantly, the value of our kids.

The competitiveness in youth sports today has created a monster in culture that is lying to our kids. If you don’t start, if you don’t get playing time, then why even bother playing? I’ve lost count of the number of talented kids I’ve seen quit sports because of this very reason. Instead of embracing their current role and working hard for a new one, they cop an attitude and quit, or worse yet, bad mouth every coach and player. And it’s not just the kids. Parents do it, too. I get it. I really do. I’m as competitive as they come. (Although I have chilled a bit as I’ve gotten older. 😊)

But what if instead of raising star athletes we focused on raising team players instead? What if we made sports about having fun again?

The team player mindset will take our kids much further in life than scoring 20 points a game in high school. Not everyone can be the star athlete. Not everyone can be the CEO. Not everyone can be the pastor in the pulpit. Not everyone can be the top dog. BUT every single ONE of us, parents included, can be a team player. A business isn’t profitable by the work of the CEO alone. A church’s impact on its community doesn’t come solely through its pastor. A team’s maximum potential can’t be fully reached until every single player embraces her role and fulfills it to the best of her ability.

By the end of this season, I found myself cheering wildly at the games. My nerves raced during the close ones. My heart hurt during the tough ones. We drove many hours and hundreds of miles to cheer for this team, my daughter’s team. And I’ll do it all again next year. I’m thankful for the lesson my daughter taught me. Watching her embrace her role in such a beautiful way, I was able to embrace mine, and just like her, I had a lot of fun doing it. Until next year, Boomers. ❤️ I can’t wait to cheer for you again.

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My daughter just finished her junior year of basketball.

# of varsity minutes played all year—very few

# of varsity points scored—0

But I’ve never been more proud of her.

However, let me be truly honest for a minute if I may. When the season started, I was struggling. I mean, I was on the Strug. Gle. Bus. I’ve never had a kid sit on the bench before. I have had 2 kids go on to play college sports, by golly. My kids don’t sit on the bench. Now let me be perfectly clear. I was NOT mad at the coach. I did NOT hold it against any other player. I was honest with myself about her abilities, but I was just plain irritated because I didn’t know how to be the parent of a kid who didn’t play. I didn’t know how to get excited for the team when my kid wasn’t on the floor. It was a new role for me, and I didn’t like it. BUT what really bothered me the most was that it seemed to NOT bother her. How could it not bother her? It irritated me beyond belief. I just didn’t understand. After about 2 weeks into the season, I couldn’t bite my tongue any longer, so I finally asked her, “Does it not bother you that you aren’t getting to play?” Her response rocked my world.

“I mean, yeah, I’d love to play more, but Mom, I know what my role is on the team, and I’m okay with that. I’m having fun.”

Mic drop. Wisdom beyond her years...this 17 year old. After hearing those words from her, I began watching her on the bench of the varsity games with a new perspective. She was always cheering, always engaged, always fulfilling her role. Before the game, I watched her encourage her team. After a time out, I watched her exhort her teammates going back out on the floor. During the ups and downs of each game, she was always doing her part to lift her team up. She worked hard in practice, and I never heard her say a negative word about her coaches or her teammates. She knew exactly what her role was, and she took fulfilling it seriously. My heart. Oh my heart.

Kids and parents today have somehow bought into this belief system that to really be a valuable member of the team you have to see a certain number of minutes on the court or the field, that to really be something you have to be the one scoring the points or making the plays. Too many kids and parents think the only role worthy to be had is that of a starter or even the lead scorer, that the roles of benchwarmers and scout team are less than. Those poor unfortunate souls. Playing time, points scored, steals made....these are crucial and exciting parts to play, and yes, these are the things that ultimately win or lose the game. BUT these are not the measuring stick by which we should use to determine the value of each role and most importantly, the value of our kids.

The competitiveness in youth sports today has created a monster in culture that is lying to our kids. If you don’t start, if you don’t get playing time, then why even bother playing? I’ve lost count of the number of talented kids I’ve seen quit sports because of this very reason. Instead of embracing their current role and working hard for a new one, they cop an attitude and quit, or worse yet, bad mouth every coach and player. And it’s not just the kids. Parents do it, too. I get it. I really do. I’m as competitive as they come. (Although I have chilled a bit as I’ve gotten older. 😊)

But what if instead of raising star athletes we focused on raising team players instead? What if we made sports about having fun again?

The team player mindset will take our kids much further in life than scoring 20 points a game in high school. Not everyone can be the star athlete. Not everyone can be the CEO. Not everyone can be the pastor in the pulpit. Not everyone can be the top dog. BUT every single ONE of us, parents included, can be a team player. A business isn’t profitable by the work of the CEO alone. A church’s impact on its community doesn’t come solely through its pastor. A team’s maximum potential can’t be fully reached until every single player embraces her role and fulfills it to the best of her ability.

By the end of this season, I found myself cheering wildly at the games. My nerves raced during the close ones. My heart hurt during the tough ones. We drove many hours and hundreds of miles to cheer for this team, my daughter’s team. And I’ll do it all again next year. I’m thankful for the lesson my daughter taught me. Watching her embrace her role in such a beautiful way, I was able to embrace mine, and just like her, I had a lot of fun doing it. Until next year, Boomers. ❤️ I can’t wait to cheer for you again.

are you high?

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My daughter just finished her junior year of basketball.

# of varsity minutes played all year—very few

# of varsity points scored—0

But I’ve never been more proud of her.

However, let me be truly honest for a minute if I may. When the season started, I was struggling. I mean, I was on the Strug. Gle. Bus. I’ve never had a kid sit on the bench before. I have had 2 kids go on to play college sports, by golly. My kids don’t sit on the bench. Now let me be perfectly clear. I was NOT mad at the coach. I did NOT hold it against any other player. I was honest with myself about her abilities, but I was just plain irritated because I didn’t know how to be the parent of a kid who didn’t play. I didn’t know how to get excited for the team when my kid wasn’t on the floor. It was a new role for me, and I didn’t like it. BUT what really bothered me the most was that it seemed to NOT bother her. How could it not bother her? It irritated me beyond belief. I just didn’t understand. After about 2 weeks into the season, I couldn’t bite my tongue any longer, so I finally asked her, “Does it not bother you that you aren’t getting to play?” Her response rocked my world.

“I mean, yeah, I’d love to play more, but Mom, I know what my role is on the team, and I’m okay with that. I’m having fun.”

Mic drop. Wisdom beyond her years...this 17 year old. After hearing those words from her, I began watching her on the bench of the varsity games with a new perspective. She was always cheering, always engaged, always fulfilling her role. Before the game, I watched her encourage her team. After a time out, I watched her exhort her teammates going back out on the floor. During the ups and downs of each game, she was always doing her part to lift her team up. She worked hard in practice, and I never heard her say a negative word about her coaches or her teammates. She knew exactly what her role was, and she took fulfilling it seriously. My heart. Oh my heart.

Kids and parents today have somehow bought into this belief system that to really be a valuable member of the team you have to see a certain number of minutes on the court or the field, that to really be something you have to be the one scoring the points or making the plays. Too many kids and parents think the only role worthy to be had is that of a starter or even the lead scorer, that the roles of benchwarmers and scout team are less than. Those poor unfortunate souls. Playing time, points scored, steals made....these are crucial and exciting parts to play, and yes, these are the things that ultimately win or lose the game. BUT these are not the measuring stick by which we should use to determine the value of each role and most importantly, the value of our kids.

The competitiveness in youth sports today has created a monster in culture that is lying to our kids. If you don’t start, if you don’t get playing time, then why even bother playing? I’ve lost count of the number of talented kids I’ve seen quit sports because of this very reason. Instead of embracing their current role and working hard for a new one, they cop an attitude and quit, or worse yet, bad mouth every coach and player. And it’s not just the kids. Parents do it, too. I get it. I really do. I’m as competitive as they come. (Although I have chilled a bit as I’ve gotten older. 😊)

But what if instead of raising star athletes we focused on raising team players instead? What if we made sports about having fun again?

The team player mindset will take our kids much further in life than scoring 20 points a game in high school. Not everyone can be the star athlete. Not everyone can be the CEO. Not everyone can be the pastor in the pulpit. Not everyone can be the top dog. BUT every single ONE of us, parents included, can be a team player. A business isn’t profitable by the work of the CEO alone. A church’s impact on its community doesn’t come solely through its pastor. A team’s maximum potential can’t be fully reached until every single player embraces her role and fulfills it to the best of her ability.

By the end of this season, I found myself cheering wildly at the games. My nerves raced during the close ones. My heart hurt during the tough ones. We drove many hours and hundreds of miles to cheer for this team, my daughter’s team. And I’ll do it all again next year. I’m thankful for the lesson my daughter taught me. Watching her embrace her role in such a beautiful way, I was able to embrace mine, and just like her, I had a lot of fun doing it. Until next year, Boomers. ❤️ I can’t wait to cheer for you again.

And team players means not bullying others on the team, a father that coaches not tipping the scales in his daughters direction and her friends direction, and actually having a fair tryout

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My Honest opinion is it could be because of the parents of those RL kids NOT the kids. I know plenty of coaches that didn’t choose kids solely because of that kids parents. Parents can ruin it for their kids sometimes. it could be a case of that. Just my 2 cents.

Very good point. Sometimes it’s the parents that ruin it for their kids. Coaches don’t want to put up with crazy parents so they may pass on those kids because of this.

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are you high?

I want whatever they are smoking - sounds like Nirvana. Pass the doob.

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Very good point. Sometimes it’s the parents that ruin it for their kids. Coaches don’t want to put up with crazy parents so they may pass on those kids because of this.

True, but often some parents have far too much influence on the rosters and many kids are passed on because their parents don't suck the assistant coach's @ss like those other parents. Sounds like this roster was created by parental friendships not because if talent or bad RL parents.