I Don’t Care if You Cry

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What a bunch of whiney Democrats. Go find your safe space and hide from the world.

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What a bunch of whiney Democrats. Go find your safe space and hide from the world.

We're talking about middle aged men making middle or high school aged girls cry while they're playing a game. People need to stop taking things so seriously.

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Agree in theory not practice. Seems these posters are referencing a specific issue and coach.
College coaches for the most part are pretty above board (except Dorrance at UNC but he’s half dead). Too much risk after NWSL sued and won and if you read it they cite the issues with youth soccer and new no tolerance. You can lose your shirt with a toxic coach. Not worth the risk from the business perspective. There are tons of coaches that are lovely and run successful programs/teams with no issues.

OP here and yes organizations have gotten much better about ousting toxic and abusive coaches. Plenty of great coaches out there and while they may not always be compassionate they're not jerks.

However, there's a difference between tough and being abusive. Not all player or parents think there's a difference or can't differentiate. If you want to play in college my position still stands. You have to have a thick skin, not just because of the coaching but it's a constant battle for PT and some of your teammates would shiv you if they could. That said I wouldn't expect that from 12 year olds.

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What a bunch of whiney Democrats. Go find your safe space and hide from the world.

Tell us you're a political fool without telling us you're a political fool

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The greatest harm to kids is done by parents who continually tell the kids how great they are even though they are not and who fuel the kids' unrealistic expectations that they have a future in soccer.

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Tell us you're a political fool without telling us you're a political fool

No illegals bussed to your town today?

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Tell us you're a political fool without telling us you're a political fool

Tell us you are a "progressive" idiot without telling us you are a "progressive" idiot.

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Tell us you are a "progressive" idiot without telling us you are a "progressive" idiot.

Tell us you aren't trying to derail the thread to make it go away without telling us you're derailing the thread to try and make it go away

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The reason coaches act like this and put down the kids is that it is so much easier than being able to coach effectively without such behavior. There are so few coaches (or people in general) who are able to manage their emotions and channel their energy positively. I will be the first to admit, I get way too emotional when coaching and have spent years trying to dial back my instant comments when a player screws up. It almost never helps the team and certainly doesn't help the individual player. Usually the player knows they messed up and teaching comes from film session and other communication the next day or later in the week.

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The reason coaches act like this and put down the kids is that it is so much easier than being able to coach effectively without such behavior. There are so few coaches (or people in general) who are able to manage their emotions and channel their energy positively. I will be the first to admit, I get way too emotional when coaching and have spent years trying to dial back my instant comments when a player screws up. It almost never helps the team and certainly doesn't help the individual player. Usually the player knows they messed up and teaching comes from film session and other communication the next day or later in the week.

I agree, but it feels like this is more of a power trip coach vs. an emotional yeller. I have apologized to players and parents for things I say in game, but I can't remember ever regretting anything I said post game to that point.

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Yes big difference between someone who just yells a lot vs someone who is always negative, berates players etc. Our HS coach yells all the time and it's just white noise to the players. Its a top team and he coaches a high level club team also...before someone jumps on the anti High School bandwagon lol.

Kids, especially younger ones, can't always differentiate well between what was said vs how it's said. Some parents can't either.

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The reason coaches act like this and put down the kids is that it is so much easier than being able to coach effectively without such behavior. There are so few coaches (or people in general) who are able to manage their emotions and channel their energy positively. I will be the first to admit, I get way too emotional when coaching and have spent years trying to dial back my instant comments when a player screws up. It almost never helps the team and certainly doesn't help the individual player. Usually the player knows they messed up and teaching comes from film session and other communication the next day or later in the week.

Sounds like MC from copa berating is players still don’t get it parents spend all this money for this nonsense and they keep coming back

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OP here and yes organizations have gotten much better about ousting toxic and abusive coaches. Plenty of great coaches out there and while they may not always be compassionate they're not jerks.

However, there's a difference between tough and being abusive. Not all player or parents think there's a difference or can't differentiate. If you want to play in college my position still stands. You have to have a thick skin, not just because of the coaching but it's a constant battle for PT and some of your teammates would shiv you if they could. That said I wouldn't expect that from 12 year olds.

It’s pretty hard to differentiate the two even for an adult. This has been the problem for female soccer players for years.
No one is undermining thick skin, I would argue if they make it through the college process they have pretty thick skin. By college they are adults and can make decisions, get a job, live independently, drive, vote. Until that point they are youth players and there is a BIG difference. Yes we have 3 under age pro youth players- let’s see where they are in 5-10 years.

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Sounds like MC from copa berating is players still don’t get it parents spend all this money for this nonsense and they keep coming back

MC is a great trainer

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MC is a great trainer

LOL does even have any license and certifications SMH whatever