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I don't believe it was to intense my son played with that team since he was 6. He trained with Z for over 2 years (3 days a week, team practices and private training). Z was actually visible upset (had tears in his eyes) when I told him that my son wanted to stop playing. I never push my son to play any sport, in all actuality I listened to what my son wanted to do. It was a very difficult decision for him to make but it was his decision to make. My son realized that his heart just wasn't in the game anymore. Sometimes kids just have other reasons for stop playing (or quitting as you claimed before) a sport they used to enjoy. Not sure if you every had somebody pass away that was a big influence and supporter in your life, but it takes time to get over the whole that is left.

Don't get me wrong I know of some children that couldn't handle how Z can be, but for my son it was never an issue. My child has had many different types of coaches in the sports that he plays, coaches that are push overs to coaches that are super competitive, I know when he goes to middle and high school he will have a variety of different types of coaches and I have to say that I don't believe he will have any issue adjusting to their coaching styles.

Thanks for trying to analyze my son but I think I know him and what is best for him.

Sounds like burn out to me. Whether he liked the coach / trainer or not, he began not to like the game and / or the constant focus on soccer. Kids need to do other things, have other interests, etc. We have a tendency to want to turn them into little soccer playing robots. If this is truly not the case with your son than ignore my comment, but I have see it over and over again through the years.

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Sounds like burn out to me. Whether he liked the coach / trainer or not, he began not to like the game and / or the constant focus on soccer. Kids need to do other things, have other interests, etc. We have a tendency to want to turn them into little soccer playing robots. If this is truly not the case with your son than ignore my comment, but I have see it over and over again through the years.

CAN YOU READ? My son plays other sports. He plays travel basketball and baseball too. He is also a straight A student. Maybe you and your child should try something else because your kid couldn't handle a "hard" trainer. All I was doing was giving somebody my opinion on somebody that I believe is a good trainer and helped improve the way my son played the game. He may not have been right for you but maybe he will be right for this person's child.

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CAN YOU READ? My son plays other sports. He plays travel basketball and baseball too. He is also a straight A student. Maybe you and your child should try something else because your kid couldn't handle a "hard" trainer. All I was doing was giving somebody my opinion on somebody that I believe is a good trainer and helped improve the way my son played the game. He may not have been right for you but maybe he will be right for this person's child.

Lady, your son quit a sport he used to love. You posted here for people to comment, so don't get all offended that some of us that have been around soccer for a long time call it like we see it. Z is a hard trainer. Your very young child was training more times a week, and playing in more matches a week than is reccomended by any real soccer professional. That is why kids burn out before they even get to the real game, at u13 is when soccer moves from developmental to competitive. Your son also has other sports etc. he is just vey young. And it is way easier now for you and him to be in denial about why he quit. Yes losing a grandparent is hard. If your kid loved it, like basketball, or if he were doing it for intrinsic reasons not outward pressure from u or grandpa, he would still love it and play. Geez, z cried, yes because it is all about his ego. Listen my kid could handle z but I would not subject my kid to that because everybody knows he is not developmentally sound, even if he has played at a high enough level to get those licenses. Why don't your read a little about psychology of coaching, and child development.

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Lady, your son quit a sport he used to love. You posted here for people to comment, so don't get all offended that some of us that have been around soccer for a long time call it like we see it. Z is a hard trainer. Your very young child was training more times a week, and playing in more matches a week than is reccomended by any real soccer professional. That is why kids burn out before they even get to the real game, at u13 is when soccer moves from developmental to competitive. Your son also has other sports etc. he is just vey young. And it is way easier now for you and him to be in denial about why he quit. Yes losing a grandparent is hard. If your kid loved it, like basketball, or if he were doing it for intrinsic reasons not outward pressure from u or grandpa, he would still love it and play. Geez, z cried, yes because it is all about his ego. Listen my kid could handle z but I would not subject my kid to that because everybody knows he is not developmentally sound, even if he has played at a high enough level to get those licenses. Why don't your read a little about psychology of coaching, and child development.

I didn't realize if a 10 year old makes a choice and discusses his unhappiness with his parents and they do what the child wants the child is considered a quitter by people that don't know him.. You believe he is burnt out, whatever your opinion really doesn't matter to me. Hopefully nothing devastating happens in your child's life and he /she decides to not do something that they used to enjoy, by the way kids change their minds on a daily basis, because I think you wouldn't be able to handle it (maybe living vicariously thru your child). I don't really care for your opinion.

There is no pressure put on my son by me, my husband or my father. FYI my dad never liked or played soccer he was a football guy..

I stand by my opinion of Z and you can have a different opinion because you are entitled. Enjoy the rest of your day and life because I honestly have wasted to much time arguing with you.

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I didn't realize if a 10 year old makes a choice and discusses his unhappiness with his parents and they do what the child wants the child is considered a quitter by people that don't know him.. You believe he is burnt out, whatever your opinion really doesn't matter to me. Hopefully nothing devastating happens in your child's life and he /she decides to not do something that they used to enjoy, by the way kids change their minds on a daily basis, because I think you wouldn't be able to handle it (maybe living vicariously thru your child). I don't really care for your opinion.

There is no pressure put on my son by me, my husband or my father. FYI my dad never liked or played soccer he was a football guy..

I stand by my opinion of Z and you can have a different opinion because you are entitled. Enjoy the rest of your day and life because I honestly have wasted to much time arguing with you.

Your description of the situation has changed somewhat. First it was "soccer wasn't fun for him anymore" and you attributed that mainly to the loss of his grandfather. A few of us (at least two since it's more than one person posting) realize that kids at u10 age level don't give up on things that they love due to a loss in their life. A two week hiatus, a month maybe... but not to give it up completely. Having said that you then say that your son has a bunch of other interests basketball, baseball and straight A student. That makes perfect sense that he was interested in exploring those things more and not focus so much on soccer. That's excellent and makes much more sense than the idea that he gave up soccer due to the death of his grandfather. Which gets us back to perhaps (again, perhaps) if he wasn't playing so much soccer or feeling as if he couldn't do anything else other than practice, train, play in two leagues, etc. etc... (soccer, soccer, and more soccer) than maybe he wouldn't have felt as if he needed to stop playing soccer completely. Just an opinion here. Take it for what it's worth... or not.

Either way, let's be clear here, I actually admire you in a way since I know that there are many parents out there who would not allow the child to quit (without a fight). They would drag their kid to more trainings, camps, etc... instead of respecting your child's wishes. So, good for you on that.

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Heh guys thanks for answering my original post but let's call this quits. Their family. their decision. Simple.

Enjoy life and if life gets hard take it out on a ball.