Using threats to motivate

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Does your boss tell you there’s someone else ready to take your job if they want better performance?

Does your spouse tell you there’s other people lined up to take your place?

Are you saying that a position of a kid player on a premier sports team is comparable to an employer-employee or husband-wife relationship? What's wrong with you?

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Funny... these are the type of comments that come from parents that have never played sports at a high level.

good luck nerd

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hanlon%27s_razor

[Guest]

Being an ******* isn’t “bringing value”.

Oh, i must have hit a nerve... smh

Brilliant response- you must be a snowflake just like your kid.

entitled brat

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Growing up I had plenty of coaches motivate by threatening to bench me or cut me; comes with the territory. I will say the coach that got the most out of us was extremely demanding but never used threats to motivate. He was just constantly on us about doing everything we could to be our best. Dude never let up. I bet there were times I would have preferred a typical coach who just threatened to bench me. Haha

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Welcome to XF.

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These people that are defending motivation through threats probably haven't had much coaching training (or they did their training 20 years ago)

https://learning.ussoccer.com/articl...ers-motivation

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I'm always amazed at the comments defending poor coaching as kids being weak, not talented etc. Poor coaching continues because coaches repeat the treatment they got and don't bother to learn and implement new techniques AND because parents accept this crap. Verbal abuse doesn't happen on my daughter's college team. They've gone to the NCAA tournament for the past 6 or 7 years. Somehow coach is successful without threats and intimidation. It can be done.

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Nobody is defending abusive coaches. Howver coming on here to complain is the biggest pot of crap possible. You are worse than the coach. You think by typing on your computer in an anonymous chat board you are doing something.

victom

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Nobody is defending abusive coaches. Howver coming on here to complain is the biggest pot of crap possible. You are worse than the coach. You think by typing on your computer in an anonymous chat board you are doing something.

victom

Then why would anyone ever come here and post anything? You're as dumb as doorknob, meathead. What the fuk are doing on this mb then?

[Guest]

Then why would anyone ever come here and post anything? You're as dumb as doorknob, meathead. What the fuk are doing on this mb then?

Hypocrite. You sound like a 12year old.

[Guest]

Our club is experiencing significant changes. The head coach, who has been with the club for many years, presents a charismatic and seemingly well-liked persona. But I've recently learned that many of the kids actually dislike him. My own player, who only interacts with him during skills training, hasn't had any issues. But I'm hearing concerning reports from other parents about his coaching methods. Apparently, he uses threats as motivation, telling players he'll replace them with players from lower teams at the club if they don't meet expectations.

It is really becoming a hostile environment, particularly insulting the second-tier team and causing tension among players. It's troubling because moving children between teams based on their developmental needs should be viewed as an opportunity for growth, not as a punishment. I'm deeply concerned by these revelations, especially given the contrast between his public and private behavior. Some children have commented that while he's pleasant around parents, his demeanor changes dramatically when adults aren't present. This situation has left me feeling unsettled and surprised by the extent of the issues within our club. Really hate this.

what club is this at? We are having similar issues and are wondering if we are at same club.

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Hypocrite. You sound like a 12year old.

Nope that's you fool for questioning why anyone posts anything yet you post here all the time. Effin moron.

[Guest]

Our club is experiencing significant changes. The head coach, who has been with the club for many years, presents a charismatic and seemingly well-liked persona. But I've recently learned that many of the kids actually dislike him. My own player, who only interacts with him during skills training, hasn't had any issues. But I'm hearing concerning reports from other parents about his coaching methods. Apparently, he uses threats as motivation, telling players he'll replace them with players from lower teams at the club if they don't meet expectations.

It is really becoming a hostile environment, particularly insulting the second-tier team and causing tension among players. It's troubling because moving children between teams based on their developmental needs should be viewed as an opportunity for growth, not as a punishment. I'm deeply concerned by these revelations, especially given the contrast between his public and private behavior. Some children have commented that while he's pleasant around parents, his demeanor changes dramatically when adults aren't present. This situation has left me feeling unsettled and surprised by the extent of the issues within our club. Really hate this.

The coach's message appears quite forceful, but it's unclear if he fully understands the issue. Some individuals may have difficulty recognizing the impact of their words or actions. I learned of a situation involving a college coach whose harsh criticism negatively affected the entire team. During the end-of-year review, the players expressed their concerns, which caught the coach off guard, leading to an emotional response. Unaware of how deeply his words had affected the team, he apologized and adjusted his approach. This change ultimately led to a better environment for everyone involved.

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what club is this at? We are having similar issues and are wondering if we are at same club.

Probably are and maybe even same team. Which club you at?

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Probably are and maybe even same team. Which club you at?

I’m on the Eastside with my kid