Be good coaches

[Guest]

Good morning coach,

I want you to know that we parents appreciate and are rooting for you. Although a lot of bull****, joisting, and craziness is posted here. I believe that even the moderately delusional parents are well intentioned.

I am writing because the little ones are watching you.

You’re an powerful adult to them and the referees as well. Your actions, decisions, and interactions with their teammates snd other teams will have profound implications for their moral and spiritual formation.

You’re like their first boss and they talk about you a lot. They know who you don’t like so much and we hear about it.

We all have our days.

None of us is perfect. But I have a request, when you take a group on please bracket your biases. Treat every young player with kindness and dignity. They notice when you don’t. You have a lot of power.

Try to find positive strategies for giving feedback. Think about these strategies in advance. Maybe even develop drills to help the weaker players with their deficits. Find ways to honor them. Everyone will notice.

Give regular objective evaluations.

In brief, they’re in a long formative moment in their little lives. Soccer is everything for many.

When is not right it can subtly undermine their sense of safety and security. This sense of disequilibrium can undermine their trust in you and their investment in trainings, games, and the overall endeavor.

More importantly, how things go at practice and on the pitch will shape their citizenship, worldview, and optimism. It might sound like an exaggeration but it’s true.

Thanks for taking tge time to consider one parent’s perspective.

[Guest]

Good morning coach,

I want you to know that we parents appreciate and are rooting for you. Although a lot of bull****, joisting, and craziness is posted here. I believe that even the moderately delusional parents are well intentioned.

I am writing because the little ones are watching you.

You’re an powerful adult to them and the referees as well. Your actions, decisions, and interactions with their teammates snd other teams will have profound implications for their moral and spiritual formation.

You’re like their first boss and they talk about you a lot. They know who you don’t like so much and we hear about it.

We all have our days.

None of us is perfect. But I have a request, when you take a group on please bracket your biases. Treat every young player with kindness and dignity. They notice when you don’t. You have a lot of power.

Try to find positive strategies for giving feedback. Think about these strategies in advance. Maybe even develop drills to help the weaker players with their deficits. Find ways to honor them. Everyone will notice.

Give regular objective evaluations.

In brief, they’re in a long formative moment in their little lives. Soccer is everything for many.

When is not right it can subtly undermine their sense of safety and security. This sense of disequilibrium can undermine their trust in you and their investment in trainings, games, and the overall endeavor.

More importantly, how things go at practice and on the pitch will shape their citizenship, worldview, and optimism. It might sound like an exaggeration but it’s true.

Thanks for taking tge time to consider one parent’s perspective.

Agree with a lot of this, particularly it is important for a coach of young people to be able to put aside any preferences and not let it affect the way players are treated. Favoritism and scapegoating is noticed, internalized and reinforced by the players and tears team morale and resilience apart. It also damages those on both ends - even the favorites who then don’t understand when they get a new coach why they are not being treated as above everyone else anymore.

[Guest]

As a coach I can say that this is not going to happen. Most of these coaches are straight from Thunderdome. They are there for the hot moms and teslas, not for some nerdy spoiled rich brat that's going nowhere. For anything to change ya';; would have to bump my pay to 6 digits...just sayin'

[Guest]

Good morning coach,

I want you to know that we parents appreciate and are rooting for you. Although a lot of bull****, joisting, and craziness is posted here. I believe that even the moderately delusional parents are well intentioned.

I am writing because the little ones are watching you.

You’re an powerful adult to them and the referees as well. Your actions, decisions, and interactions with their teammates snd other teams will have profound implications for their moral and spiritual formation.

You’re like their first boss and they talk about you a lot. They know who you don’t like so much and we hear about it.

We all have our days.

None of us is perfect. But I have a request, when you take a group on please bracket your biases. Treat every young player with kindness and dignity. They notice when you don’t. You have a lot of power.

Try to find positive strategies for giving feedback. Think about these strategies in advance. Maybe even develop drills to help the weaker players with their deficits. Find ways to honor them. Everyone will notice.

Give regular objective evaluations.

In brief, they’re in a long formative moment in their little lives. Soccer is everything for many.

When is not right it can subtly undermine their sense of safety and security. This sense of disequilibrium can undermine their trust in you and their investment in trainings, games, and the overall endeavor.

More importantly, how things go at practice and on the pitch will shape their citizenship, worldview, and optimism. It might sound like an exaggeration but it’s true.

Thanks for taking tge time to consider one parent’s perspective.

Really can't tell if OP is taking the piss or serious here.

You can't protect your kid in a touchy-feely cult of positivity forever dude, They need to learn how to deal with not having a sense of safety and security and disequilibrium and dealing with a-hole people who will invariably come in and out of their lives. That is how they build character and confidence and resilience and independence.

Stop helicoptering and providing guardrails for everything that they do. Don't pass on your neurosis to them. Let them learn how to cope on their own. You should be preparing them for how the world actually is and not for a Montessori classroom in Medina. You're seriously only making it worse with this namby pampy white liberal sh*t.

[Guest]

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Really can't tell if OP is taking the piss or serious here.

You can't protect your kid in a touchy-feely cult of positivity forever dude, They need to learn how to deal with not having a sense of safety and security and disequilibrium and dealing with a-hole people who will invariably come in and out of their lives. That is how they build character and confidence and resilience and independence.

Stop helicoptering and providing guardrails for everything that they do. Don't pass on your neurosis to them. Let them learn how to cope on their own. You should be preparing them for how the world actually is and not for a Montessori classroom in Medina. You're seriously only making it worse with this namby pampy white liberal sh*t.


I wholeheartedly agree with this poster my kids best coaches have been the toughest coaches, ass kickers if you will , I hate soft sweet coaches , your kids get worse with that wimp crap . Soccer is a contact sport for christ sake but every good coach has has some tesla driving nerd tell them to stop yelling at the kiddies.

[Guest]

Really can't tell if OP is taking the piss or serious here.

You can't protect your kid in a touchy-feely cult of positivity forever dude, They need to learn how to deal with not having a sense of safety and security and disequilibrium and dealing with a-hole people who will invariably come in and out of their lives. That is how they build character and confidence and resilience and independence.

Stop helicoptering and providing guardrails for everything that they do. Don't pass on your neurosis to them. Let them learn how to cope on their own. You should be preparing them for how the world actually is and not for a Montessori classroom in Medina. You're seriously only making it worse with this namby pampy white liberal sh*t.

**** you OP I am here FTW. Take your woke goody two shoe **** to Pac NW.