Oregon United

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This escalated quickly.....

Parents actually criticize their kids after games? What is wrong with Oregon soccer culture that stuff is still going on?

I quiz my players on Monday and I ask them who's parents told them "you shoulda done this or that" or "you need to do this..." Then I go confront the parents and about it. I haven't had to do that since about spring with my current groups. Don't all coaches do this?

I mutter and talk to myself about how dumb some of my players are sometimes. I love them all (no creep on insta or twitter though) but they do some crazzy azzed stuff sometimes and I'm not immune to thinking some mean things (that I'd never say).

At the end of the day it's just a game and a crappy part time job for me.

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This escalated quickly.....

Parents actually criticize their kids after games? What is wrong with Oregon soccer culture that stuff is still going on?

I quiz my players on Monday and I ask them who's parents told them "you shoulda done this or that" or "you need to do this..." Then I go confront the parents and about it. I haven't had to do that since about spring with my current groups. Don't all coaches do this?

I mutter and talk to myself about how dumb some of my players are sometimes. I love them all (no creep on insta or twitter though) but they do some crazzy azzed stuff sometimes and I'm not immune to thinking some mean things (that I'd never say).

At the end of the day it's just a game and a crappy part time job for me.

Everyone mutters and talks to themselves about how dumb some of the players are sometimes. Keeping it to yourself is the key. The coaches to watch out for are those who lose their cool, then belittle or demean players or referees, then apologize or make excuses for themselves, then treat the kids like nothing happened, and then do it all over again... over and over. It’s called a cycle of abuse. That’s not “tough coaching”.

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Everyone mutters and talks to themselves about how dumb some of the players are sometimes. Keeping it to yourself is the key. The coaches to watch out for are those who lose their cool, then belittle or demean players or referees, then apologize or make excuses for themselves, then treat the kids like nothing happened, and then do it all over again... over and over. It’s called a cycle of abuse. That’s not “tough coaching”.

No, they don’t all mutter derogatory comments under their breathes. My husband has coached soccer for 30 years and I have never heard him call one of is players a name. He has often come home with stories of heart braking losses, but he never blamed one player for a loss. Players make mistakes throughout the entire game. One mistake by one player isn’t why a game is lost. Soccer is a team sport. Coaches are supposed to be role models. Calling people names, even under your breath, is juvenile. Targeting one child for a loss is bullying and abusive. Grow up coaches, act your ages. Standing by watching this happen and not saying anything is contributing to the problem.

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No, they don’t all mutter derogatory comments under their breathes. My husband has coached soccer for 30 years and I have never heard him call one of is players a name.

Gonna go with BS.

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Gonna go with BS.

He’s also never cheated on you 👌🏻

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It happened in Seattle vs Eastside Reign. Goalie let one in and coach freaked. Rolled through her fingertips. Usual temper tantrum from coach when team is losing. Bench was told to find a new goalie during the episode. Spiteful nasty comments. They picked up the third goalie at tryouts. Why get rid of $2k when you have a player you can keep and insult because her parents don’t care? How many girls have cried after this teams games from being insulted?

You witnessed this?

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Gonna go with BS.

It’s called integrity. Apparently, the company you keep has none. That is probably why you let your daughter’s coach call little girls “f*#%ing morons”.

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It’s called integrity. Apparently, the company you keep has none. That is probably why you let your daughter’s coach call little girls “f*#%ing morons”.

And you don't have it with your made up story.

Coaches think it and share it with their peers. Maybe he doesn't want you nagging at him or could care less what you think and never bothered to tell you.

So go ask him....if he ever told a peer that he thought a players was a moron.

It's OK, I already know the answer.

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It’s called integrity. Apparently, the company you keep has none. That is probably why you let your daughter’s coach call little girls “f*#%ing morons”.

Your mom is a %%}* moron.

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Anybody know the stats for future abuse when a child witnesses abuse of their peers or suffers from abuse at the hands of a trusted male adults?

Sad!

Not limited to male adults, could be female adults in a coaching or teaching role as well. Most coaches and the better clubs are aware of the long term impacts that prolonged and repeated verbal abuse have on the child’s future relationships, especially females. Stats are well documented.
Parents need to open their eyes and stop with double standards. Ask yourself every time.. “would it be ok for my child’s school teacher to speak to or about students that way”. If the answer is no, leave.

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*** is going on in this thread

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*** is going on in this thread

Looks like someone wants to change the subject about whether or not a certain coach is a verbally-abusive bully and serial liar.

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Looks like someone wants to change the subject about whether or not a certain coach is a verbally-abusive bully and serial liar.

It’s been long known that he is a bully, verbally abusive, liar, plagiarist. He has enablers. People who believe he can get their daughter a scholly. Sad. Really, really sad.

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Looks like someone wants to change the subject about whether or not a certain coach is a verbally-abusive bully and serial liar.

I think there's more than one discussion going on.

Is he a liar? If he said he played for South Hampton and X then yes. Because there is no evidence.

Is he a bully and verbally abusive, etc? I don't know him and the only evidence is that he called a player a "expletive moron?" Seems to be some comments he said this to other players on the bench and told them to recruit a new player or something. Yes, that's pretty bad but then it appear he got fired for it so whatcha gonna do?

And 3rd - do other coaches think bad thoughts about their players and tell their peers. Or maybe some times to they slip and say passive aggressive things. And I say that they do.

Look, if you have lied about your resume there is only two things you can do. 1: you can come clean, reinvent yourself. You'll get beat up a bit by some, easily forgiven by others but you'll have a clean state moving forward. Or 2, move and "start fresh."

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Looks like someone wants to change the subject about whether or not a certain coach is a verbally-abusive bully and serial liar.

No just did not get some tangents the thread went on