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**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 10:28 AM

there is always some movement after tryouts. most chalk it up to recruiting, but movement does take place.

get on the phone and start calling the clubs you wanna play for.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 10:45 AM

Age group?

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 10:45 AM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

OK I may get beat up on this, but my kid is on a team that I am not sure they will like. They will probably be the best on the team and there is some negative mojo going on.... The coach was already told that the kid will play. Is it too late to go elsewhere. We haven't paid and it may be difficult to find a spot elsewhere. I want to do the right thing for the kid but also want do the ethical thing... Has anyone left a team at this time in yr experiences? Thanks

Better to go now than in 4 months.

Also do not forget this is a business. You pay to play.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 11:06 AM

I agree with all the other posters. You are paying for a service and you are also your child's only true advocate. It is your job to try to make the best decisions for your child not your team. I am not dissing on loyalty as it is good but if the fit isn't there it isn't going to get any better. Do it now and save yourself some grief and emotional drama.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 03:01 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

OK I may get beat up on this, but my kid is on a team that I am not sure they will like. They will probably be the best on the team and there is some negative mojo going on.... The coach was already told that the kid will play. Is it too late to go elsewhere. We haven't paid and it may be difficult to find a spot elsewhere. I want to do the right thing for the kid but also want do the ethical thing... Has anyone left a team at this time in yr experiences? Thanks

Hope its not an ESUFC team or be prepared for the ultimate tongue lashing on how how your child owes his talent heart and soul to ESU's training and how they will never amount to nothing. Moving on is part of life do whats right for your child.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 03:03 PM

OMG.... Did you get that one too?

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 03:06 PM

You might try

talking with the coach/DOC and see if there is another option for your player - another team in the current age group, playing up an age group, etc.

Before you move you should also consider how your child might benefit/suffer from switching to another club where he/she may or may not know any other players and how he/she will be viewed at the other club.

The good part is that you are still early in the "season" so a move shouldn't be too difficult if it comes to that.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 04:54 PM

Do what's right for the kid

Whats best for the child? It's still really early with more then enough time for changes. the question, the best player on poor team, or good player on good team, your child will flourish more with equal talent.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 05:27 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

Whats best for the child? It's still really early with more then enough time for changes. the question, the best player on poor team, or good player on good team, your child will flourish more with equal talent.

Got to go with your feeling sometimes, if it smells bad get away, not happy get away, want something different test the water. Never to early to make a change.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 06:05 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

Whats best for the child? It's still really early with more then enough time for changes. the question, the best player on poor team, or good player on good team, your child will flourish more with equal talent.

Good advice above. Now is the time to make the change if you really feel that way. We had a player leave late summer. It wasn't handled that well on either end (parents or club/team) and would have been better if they would have left when they realized this wasn't the right place for their player.

**Unregistered** · 05-17-2012, 08:26 PM

Unkept secret: many clubs leave spots open on their roster in case they get that talented kid has decided they want to play for that club.

I've seen this at our own club and on other teams. Sometimes I wonder what is the point of tryouts, but I also understand why clubs add players after tryouts.

FWIW- I'm in a slightly different situation as I do not like the club my kid plays for (even tried to gently pursued to go elsewhere) , but the kid likes the club and teammates. So I just grin and bear it.

**littlebit** · 05-22-2012, 08:08 PM

A similar thing happened to our son many years ago. I had a bad feeling about the whole situation very early on and we kept thinking we'd stick with it a little longer, just through the summer, etc., hoping things would get better. He wasn't the best one on the team and didn't exactly have coaches from other clubs lining up to offer a spot on their "A" team but we did get an offer to come out to another "B" team halfway through the summer and we stupidly did not do it. We felt "guilty" and thought we should see our "commitment" through to the club he tried out with. I guarantee that the loyalty and commitment is not reciprocated.

Like someone else said this is a business. You pay money for a service and you are your child's best and ONLY advocate. You can present however nice and diplomatic that you want but if you really feel there is a better situation for him and that he would be happier elsewhere, then move on. Seriously.

**Unregistered** · 05-22-2012, 11:15 PM

Originally posted by littlebit View Post

A similar thing happened to our son many years ago. I had a bad feeling about the whole situation very early on and we kept thinking we'd stick with it a little longer, just through the summer, etc., hoping things would get better. He wasn't the best one on the team and didn't exactly have coaches from other clubs lining up to offer a spot on their "A" team but we did get an offer to come out to another "B" team halfway through the summer and we stupidly did not do it. We felt "guilty" and thought we should see our "commitment" through to the club he tried out with. I guarantee that the loyalty and commitment is not reciprocated.

Like someone else said this is a business. You pay money for a service and you are your child's best and ONLY advocate. You can present however nice and diplomatic that you want but if you really feel there is a better situation for him and that he would be happier elsewhere, then move on. Seriously.

Thanks. I agree, going with your gut is important.