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**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 12:49 PM

Coached U11-U14 for 6 years.

It took a little time to figure out but, I soon learned it was not fair to punish a kid for the conduct of their parents. From the begining of the season, I tried to keep separate parent inteaction and kids performance on the feild.

The one thing I do not miss from coaching, the emails from parents breaking down to the exact second how much time their kid got . . . and sometimes what some other kld got.

**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 01:03 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

Coached U11-U14 for 6 years.

The one thing I do not miss from coaching, the emails from parents breaking down to the exact second how much time their kid got . . . and sometimes what some other kld got.

I have my flaws as a soccer parent, and I admit to asking a coach about playing time once or twice, but I have never sent any emails about playing time much less noting how much time my kid got.

I do think that a parent, who is paying a large sum, has the right to ask a coach about playing time (in a respectful way). I have structured my question to be "what does my kid have to do to earn more playing time from you"? Or better yet, I had my kid ask that question. I don't think any coach will ever have a problem if a player asks them respectfully "I love to play. What do I have to do to earn more playing time."?

**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 01:34 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

Sorry coach, you are going to get second guessed by parents whether you like it or not. It's probably going on with many of the parents but you are just unaware of it. If you are a paid coach, it comes with the territory. Parents who have never played the game are pretty observant, especially after watching years of soccer. They notice when players don't give effort, don't have good skills, don't have speed, .... and when a coach continues to play kids who are deficient or play them in positions that hurt the team, you will get second guessing. Hey my wife never played HS sports but she notices things on the field and wonders why the coach is making the decisions he is making. We are currently on a team with a great coach and every time I see something on the field that is bad, it isn't long before I see the coach making a change. I'm not saying the coach is great because he is apparently seeing the game the same way I am seeing the game, he is great because of all the awards he has received and what he has done with all of his teams.

I agree with you and I didn't write it correctly. I meant to say that I dont really want a parent being too negative out loud to all the other parents. Some people are just negative energy and that wears down the other parents too that have to listen to that.

**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 01:56 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

I agree with you and I didn't write it correctly. I meant to say that I dont really want a parent being too negative out loud to all the other parents. Some people are just negative energy and that wears down the other parents too that have to listen to that.

Thanks for clarifying. I don't disagree with you. Negative energy hurts a team. I probably have had too much negative energy from time to time. I will take note of that in the future and try to reverse it. It's not good for any team to have that.

**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 02:48 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

Thanks for clarifying. I don't disagree with you. Negative energy hurts a team. I probably have had too much negative energy from time to time. I will take note of that in the future and try to reverse it. It's not good for any team to have that.

I applaud you for admitting this. I think that when my soccer player was very young I had much more negative energy about me. Now that she is older I don't even get wrapped up about other people's kids. My DD will be fine no matter what the team does or does not do. If we don't like the way things are going we can leave but in general this isn't an issue anymore!!

**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 03:28 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

I applaud you for admitting this. I think that when my soccer player was very young I had much more negative energy about me. Now that she is older I don't even get wrapped up about other people's kids. My DD will be fine no matter what the team does or does not do. If we don't like the way things are going we can leave but in general this isn't an issue anymore!!

Ok, you two are getting along way too well and your discussion is way too adult to be posting in this forum. I find it offensive. In this forum, we bash, trash, cuss, and demean. Please take your positive energy elsewhere! ;) <tongue in cheek if it wasn't obvious>

**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 04:34 PM

I've seen the situation where everyone (coach and other parents) loved this particular set of parents, but the kid had a terrible attitude. It was a bit of a shock that she didn't make the team she'd played on for 3 years because of her bad attitude. The coach finally had enough and said so.

**Unregistered** · 05-09-2012, 04:45 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered View Post

Ok, you two are getting along way too well and your discussion is way too adult to be posting in this forum. I find it offensive. In this forum, we bash, trash, cuss, and demean. Please take your positive energy elsewhere! ;) <tongue in cheek if it wasn't obvious>

Too bad we don't break things down on a positive level throughout this forum! It would make the discussions more useful.