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Not saying that's a good or bad thing, just the reality.
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Not terribly uncommon. I know my daughter has always lived with a "what's next" mentality. She had her career choice picked out that young, so she mentally mapped out her entire life to make that happen. Every choice she made had that in mind, and a part of that included soccer.
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Discussions about the importance of college at a young age is fantastic. Making college soccer the goal at age 8 before a kid has had the chance to really see what's out there in the world seems really out there IMHO.Comment
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Dreams are good. Goal-setting for college athletics at age 8? Crazy.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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At that age a lot of kids will say their dream is play college soccer or to be a professional soccer player.Originally posted by Guest View Post
There are some kids that say it, and actually mean it. You have to be honest with yourself and figure out which bucket your kid falls into.Comment
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lol crazy. Like all is terrible because an 8 year old has a goal to do something so wonderful. Just give your kid the cell phone. Now that is actually crazy yet is so normalizedComment
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The original comment being responded to was "Playing college was always the goal but I was having to push her till about 14-15". The fact that the parent had to push implies that it wasn't the kid's goal. Crazy.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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crazy in your eyes but completely normal in the competitive sports world here in the US. Not just soccer but all sports. What we all do as competitive sports parents is crazy. The money, the travel, the extra training, late nights, early mornings, driving all over the state and beyond. Its all crazy and everyone on this forum does it. The idea of the goal of playing college sports when your 8 is something that bothers you? lol.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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The hard reality is the sooner you dive in, the better. I know that is blasphemous. And, I also realize that no matter how early you go all Marinovinch, it guarantees nothing and are fraught with downsides.
However, I have zero doubt if my kid took it more serious earlier, she'd be a much better player. She always sort of had "it", and managed to work just hard enough to be successful (a mantel full of HS awards and titles and is currently a mid-level player on a mid-level team at a mid-major D1 college). But, she had decent genes, good physical attributes, and a competitive edge that basically took her this far. First, I'm immensely proud of how it turned out for her. But, I've had a private nagging sense if she always did her hundred touches, if she worked on fitness harder and earlier, if I spent hundreds (thousands) of extra dollars on personal training she had the makeup to be much better. I've been around the game enough recognize impacts vs. potentials vs. reality to see differences. I essentially left it up to her, told her I'd support her with anything she wanted but I would never make her do anything.
If she had done all that as I said she would've been a much better player. But, she wouldn't be who she IS. She would be a different person, with different goals and different things that make up her totality. Her goals were around her career, and used soccer as a tool to help get her there. As good as her soccer career has turned out, she's a much better person and student than that. I'm much more proud of that than anything on the pitch she has accomplished.
So, yes, you can push them or allow them to push themselves earlier and harder and you will see results. I would think that would be the same with anything. But, is that what they truly want? Up to each family to decide.Comment
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Yes, it does bother me. An 8 year old has very little understanding of the opportunities available to them in life, and to make college athletics the goal of participating in youth sports at such a young age is crazy indeed. Making it the goal at such a young age and spending all that time, money, resources efforts on that single endeavor closes off exploration and growth opportunities for a kid. I'm guessing that most of the time, kids at that age are motivated more by what they think their parents want them to do than what they actually want for themselves. What happens when that kid reaches puberty and the way their body fills out but not enough to make them athletic enough to be a college athlete? ...and then the 6 years they've spent focused on their goal of college soccer becomes unattainable? Are there exceptions? Sure. But for the vast majority of kids out there, it's crazy.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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Why would you tell them that? Are you missing my point on purpose?Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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My kid wanted to be an astronaut when they were young. She never wavered and now works at NASA in the space program. I guess I should've told her to....not?
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My kid wants to be a tik tok star, which I guess is better than OnlyFans.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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- Went to my current 7th grader's KG promotion/graduation/whatever ceremony and half the kids wanted to be YouTubers that long ago. We're all screwed.
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