My kid is happy with the current team and so am I. However, I strongly believe in trying out every year for other teams in order to see where you stand skill wise and to have a backup plan in case the current situation suddenly changes for the worse. I am considering letting the coach know so that there is no misunderstanding. Would you? Why or why not?
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Two options:
1-Tell the coach that your kid's friend is trying out for another team and wants her to do the tryout too for moral support.
2-Ask your coach if your kid's spot on the current team is secure...and if it isn't, that you want to return but will need to tryout in case he doesn't offer her a spot to return.
In both cases, tell him that you and your kid definitely want to return for next year with the assumption that he will still be the coach and are willing to commit to that if he is. -
It depends, I’ve always told the coach even ask him if he thought there were better opportunities for my kid.
We swap teams a couple of years ago and now I wouldn’t tell the coach. It’s a higher level team and he is only worried on what’s best for the club.
It’s a complete mystery what will happen next year, we know the overall plan but we don’t know in which team our kid will fall if any (not even a clue on where do we stand).
the only thing the coach says is: it depends on the level of the tryouts.
He’s not even telling us the number of girls trying out and we know he’s already sent offers to girls out of the team.
I don’t think he deserves a “heads up”
so, is your coach focused on the kids development or on the success? It’s linked but not all coaches want to put the workComment
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Depending on level, it’s a really small community, at least on the girls side so people will find out. I’d strongly advocate asking your coach directly if your child’s position is secure. If they can’t commit, then I would say that your child’s first choice is to remain with the team but they need to have options. If you get the assurance, I’m not sure what the point is of attending tryouts. If child is trying to bump up a level, fine but tryouts don’t give you any sense of the team dynamics and playing style. Better off going to another team’s practice. At the highest level teams, it seems like 1-2 kids max get offers from open tryouts anyway…Comment
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If the coach hasn't given your kid an offer before tryouts, then your position is not secure and no need to tell them you are looking elsewhere. If they did give you an early offer, then tell them you are looking around and need more time to make a decision.Comment
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Team mates will likely find out before the coach does. Kids change teams so often that they run into each other at different places. In that case, having the coach know is not a bad thing.Comment
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have two kids who have been playing for a rather long time now. They were never, ever told your spot is secure. Both have almost always been in the starting lineup. They were told to show up to the tryout and work hard. I think this depends on the coach and club culture / traditions.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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we are trying out just to see what is out there. We will tell the coach at some point. My D is one of the better kids on her 2012 team and we will probably ask the club for an extension for signing back up with them (just a couple of weeks) so we can work with some other teams (our club tryouts are really early). I would say there is a 50/50 shot of leaving, but I am sure the coach will understand. Half of my D's team is not very committed and it hurts the team and annoys my D.Comment
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So without this reassurance but all signs pointing to them being fine, curious if they tried out elsewhere as a backup?Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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I actually think its fair to say that they have to attend other tryouts given the uncertainty the current club has put her in. If she doesn't have an offer for a specific team, she should absolutely attend other tryouts and it shouldn't be a surprise.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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Was in the same spot with my kid. Really liked the coach, but most of the teammates were not very committed and could not consistently push my kid during practices. That meant very slow growth and much annoyance. Switched clubs and it worked out. Kid is in the upper half, but needs to work hard to keep up.Originally posted by Guest View Post
P.S. not throwing shade on kids who are not "as committed". "Commitment" is a relative thing and everyone has different circumstances and goals. Just saying that sometimes it is better to move. I did not tell the coach about trying out elsewhere, but he figured it out quickly as we kept stalling on signing the contract for next year.Comment
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One did. Was not thrilled with potential bench time and chose plenty of play time at the old club. Kid is not concerned with "next level", but enjoys playing more than anything. At a younger age, when punishments were still relevant, the threat of missing practice was more effective than actually taking phone away for a week.Originally posted by Guest View Post
That's just my case though. It all depends on personal goals, circumstances, etc.Comment
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