If you don't plan on staying with your current team, is it better to finish out the spring post tryouts or make a clean break? Seems like it could get complicated for the kid once everyone knows they are leaving. Thoughts?
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you paid for it, play it. Don't tell your current team until the last possible moment, but when they ask, tell the truth. If the club wants to make a clean break, ask for your card to be transferred to the new club and maybe you can get some time there. -
Depends. Sometimes the new club will want you to play with them for spring and that may be preferable than staying at the old club. When they find out you are not staying there could be a questionable response from the coach and even sometimes the players. I’ve seen players be released immediately and also some have stayed on, my opinion it was better for them to go ASAP.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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"Seems like it could get complicated for the kid once everyone knows they are leaving" - this depends a lot on the players age and club atmosphere. I saw this happen in different clubs where my kids played. These were no drama clubs and kids did not worry about it. If anything, they were bummed that one their teammates was leaving. YMMV of course.
If money is not an issue and the kid is OK leaving compatriots behind, then sure, it would make sense to start training with the new team sooner. New coach will decide on the play time minutes and there may be many variables there. If you are comfortable with asking the new coach, then you'll get a better answer.Comment
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Certain clubs will hold the card until the end of the season, so be careful.Comment
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Yes, if the kid is worth anything they might hold the card just to be spiteful. In most cases if the player/parents want out the coach will have no problem handing the card over.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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Really depends on the club/coach. Very few are great and continue play the rest of the year regardless. Others will sit your kid in favor of ones already committed. Remember though the soccer community is very small and a lot of these coaches know each other. Some even have unspoken rules that if a player shows up to tryouts from club X then they will call them to let them know. Some leagues also have rules, like ECNL, which says when a player can tryout for another ECNL club.
My D had left her team a few years ago mid season, she didn't like the coach at all and when she joined the club they were supposed to have a different coach. The club wouldn't release her card so she didn't play league games during the spring. She was able to practice with her new club though and played some tournaments as a quest player for some teams with coaches and players we knew so it worked out for her.
Hope for the best for your kid, wasting a half year on the sideline because the coach/club play games is horrible.Comment
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Very eye-opening that some clubs and coaches operate in such a petty way. My kid moved clubs last season and when we informed the coach with our reasons, he was a complete professional and said it would be business as usual for the rest of the season. I was concerned that I would suddenly see my kid on the bench but true to his word, nothing changed. The kids themselves had no resentment or anything, the only real problem was the awkwardness and underlying hostility from some of the other parents who felt betrayed for whatever reason. Again, I'm sure other clubs and coaches would handle it differently, but if they do just shows why you are leaving them to begin with!Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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You should be very careful about moving a team in the mid of the season, especially post-tryout. It would influence motivation of other players because everyone thinks that your kid chose a better team and the coach doesn't like it. It would leave a very bad impression and who knows you might wanna move back to the team in the future for some reasons?Comment
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If you committed to a team for the year and nothing serious happened to your child, what lesson are you teaching your child by just leaving? I wonder what this generation will grow up to be with parents who ‘make a clean break’Comment
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That’s a stand up coach right there. I think it’s always best to finish out the season as it looks better on the players as well rather than leaving a team hanging when they could have placed a more committed player in that spot. However , it it’s not a healthy situation then the player needs to leave to avoid it all.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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I could not agree with you more. You are teaching your kid to quit. It is a horrible thing to teach your kid.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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Totally agree. Unless it’s completely unhealthy for a player then they need to stay until the end. It also doesn’t look good jumping mid year from club to club.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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There are people who are known to do this and everyone knows. When you have to switch every year, YOU are the problem.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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