Advice from Experienced Soccer Parents

[Guest]

^Thanks, this is great advice and I never thought about looking at the opposing teams that way. This is really helpful. Appreciate the guidance.

I moved my son to a team he played against when he was u-little age and he moved again later on for HS to cut down on the travel/car time.

Also another good reason to not be a lunatic parent on the sidelines as you never know who is watching-

[Guest]

I moved my son to a team he played against when he was u-little age and he moved again later on for HS to cut down on the travel/car time.

Also another good reason to not be a lunatic parent on the sidelines as you never know who is watching-

Have you not been paying attention?? Are you reading the US soccer reports? Coaches can be abusive. They abuse their power. They damage psyche.

Lunatic parent? Be involved. The coaches should see that parents are going to hold them accountable to their words and actions.

[Guest]

Have you not been paying attention?? Are you reading the US soccer reports? Coaches can be abusive. They abuse their power. They damage psyche.

Lunatic parent? Be involved. The coaches should see that parents are going to hold them accountable to their words and actions.

There is a thread discussing the extensive abuse of power in soccer by coaches. These go hand in hand. Stand up for the players. It is your job as a parent.

[Guest]

Have you not been paying attention?? Are you reading the US soccer reports? Coaches can be abusive. They abuse their power. They damage psyche.

Lunatic parent? Be involved. The coaches should see that parents are going to hold them accountable to their words and actions.

So you think parents are never the problem?

Not justifying abusive coaches as we have had an issue before, but I see far more parents being an issue than coaches.

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So you think parents are never the problem?

Not justifying abusive coaches as we have had an issue before, but I see far more parents being an issue than coaches.

Then you aren't looking. Maybe the parent knows what the coach has done or has been doing to their or other kids and people like you give the coaches a pass.

[Guest]

Then you aren't looking. Maybe the parent knows what the coach has done or has been doing to their or other kids and people like you give the coaches a pass.

No. Maybe you are the type of parent who goes into every transaction looking for something that isn't there.

Again, I've seen it on both sides. Seen way more parents yelling from the sidelines than I do coaches - simple math: There are two dozen + parents on the sidelines vs. 1-2 coaches, so odds are not in your favor there. That does NOT mean there aren't coaches that are a huge problem....and, again, as mentioned, we had to deal with it. But to think parents should get off clean is naive.

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No. Maybe you are the type of parent who goes into every transaction looking for something that isn't there.

Again, I've seen it on both sides. Seen way more parents yelling from the sidelines than I do coaches - simple math: There are two dozen + parents on the sidelines vs. 1-2 coaches, so odds are not in your favor there. That does NOT mean there aren't coaches that are a huge problem....and, again, as mentioned, we had to deal with it. But to think parents should get off clean is naive.

The poster did not say that parents get off clean. Said maybe you don't know full story.

Yelling from sidelines as long as not derogatory or taunting from both parents and coaches are not abusive. Does not make for lunacy either. Unless they are yelling to intentionally harm, snd such. Otherwise it means engaged.

And agree. Many many more parents than coaches so the numbers are going to support seeing more engaged parents or spectators.

But hopefully this is a wake up call to all. Maybe that coach who is over the top during games is also over the top when training your kid or your friend's kid (maybe yours is spared).

[Guest]

Time to face reality that maybe your kid isn't that good?

Don't be an asshat. That was totally uncalled for. It's a reasonable question and the poster is not claiming their kid is the next pulisic.

My suggestion is talk to the DOC and if things don't change walk away. Unfortunately you're probably not going to get your money back but if you leave mid year the other team should prorated. Just make sure to research the new team go to a practice and to a game.

[Guest]

Have you not been paying attention?? Are you reading the US soccer reports? Coaches can be abusive. They abuse their power. They damage psyche.

Lunatic parent? Be involved. The coaches should see that parents are going to hold them accountable to their words and actions.

So being involved to you is behaving like a lunatic at a game? You can cheer your kid without being an ***hat. And if you have an issue with the coach, the game/post game is not the time nor place to address it. Be an adult and handle it like an adult to set the example for your kid.

If its bad/bad pull the kid and just move on.

[Guest]

Have you not been paying attention?? Are you reading the US soccer reports? Coaches can be abusive. They abuse their power. They damage psyche.

Lunatic parent? Be involved. The coaches should see that parents are going to hold them accountable to their words and actions.

thats only on the girls side boys are fine

[Guest]

thats only on the girls side boys are fine

oh yeah, boys coaches are never verbally abusive eye roll eye roll eye roll

[Guest]

Time to face reality that maybe your kid isn't that good?

You are dismissed, go back to pornhub.

[Guest]

Hard work is the answer. My son was in a similar position at that age, playing in a low level town EDP team. Started training by himself and going to the soccer field with his friends as often as he could. Improved enough to move to a very good team. Training and playing with better players really improved his game. Watching lots of tv games and youtube also helped him. Now he's a capitan in his varsity team.

[Guest]

That is a very large roster and unacceptable. You should consider a town team, most towns do have strong teams. He needs to be playing a level that is ultimately enjoyable for him and he needs to be comfortable with the coach to gain confidence in his game. It sounds like he is miserable, so why force him? 15 minutes a game will do nothing for him long term and competing with 20 other kids to try and stand out to the coach could be harmful to his self esteem, which seems like it already is.
Would you teach your child that if someone is treating him poorly or he is in a situation that is making him increasingly unhappy to just stick with it and maybe it will get better? If you feel you have given enough time and your son would be happier elsewhere, its time to leave.

[Guest]

That is a very large roster and unacceptable. You should consider a town team, most towns do have strong teams. He needs to be playing a level that is ultimately enjoyable for him and he needs to be comfortable with the coach to gain confidence in his game. It sounds like he is miserable, so why force him? 15 minutes a game will do nothing for him long term and competing with 20 other kids to try and stand out to the coach could be harmful to his self esteem, which seems like it already is.
Would you teach your child that if someone is treating him poorly or he is in a situation that is making him increasingly unhappy to just stick with it and maybe it will get better? If you feel you have given enough time and your son would be happier elsewhere, its time to leave.

"Most"

I'll concede "it may happen" But most? C'mon