Loyalty to the team

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Has anyone broached this subject? Specifically,parents that look the coach in the eye and commit their child to the team(while the child refuses to make eye contact because he/she knows the parent is lying) then finding out the child is on another team.If the child is going to another team, just be honest, It's not personal.You lose respect for people that talk out of both sides of their mouth. Honesty and loyalty go both ways

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Has anyone broached this subject? Specifically,parents that look the coach in the eye and commit their child to the team(while the child refuses to make eye contact because he/she knows the parent is lying) then finding out the child is on another team.If the child is going to another team, just be honest, It's not personal.You lose respect for people that talk out of both sides of their mouth. Honesty and loyalty go both ways

Say your child is trying out for another team and doesn't know if they have made it. Do they tell their old coach this and effectively give up their back up position or even one they aren't sure they want to leave? Maybe its a tough decision for the parents/kid to change because of the social implications.

The rules state that this is the only time of year its acceptable for coaches to recruit. The purpose of tryouts is to replace or fill positions on the team. The rules definitely state that kids are free to change teams whenever they want to.

To the strongest kids; "promise me you'll stay with me forever - and I'd like an anser now." To the weaker kids; "we'll have to see who shows up or you can stay but play time will be limited." Is the purpose of asking parents / children to take away their power in the situation? Use emotional factors to turn their decision?

Tough time of year for good people, including parent and coaches. Club soccer is a business. We pay for services and every once in a while have to make difficult choices and hopefully for the better.

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Say your child is trying out for another team and doesn't know if they have made it. Do they tell their old coach this and effectively give up their back up position or even one they aren't sure they want to leave? Maybe its a tough decision for the parents/kid to change because of the social implications.

The rules state that this is the only time of year its acceptable for coaches to recruit. The purpose of tryouts is to replace or fill positions on the team. The rules definitely state that kids are free to change teams whenever they want to.

To the strongest kids; "promise me you'll stay with me forever - and I'd like an anser now." To the weaker kids; "we'll have to see who shows up or you can stay but play time will be limited." Is the purpose of asking parents / children to take away their power in the situation? Use emotional factors to turn their decision?

Tough time of year for good people, including parent and coaches. Club soccer is a business. We pay for services and every once in a while have to make difficult choices and hopefully for the better.

Agreed,but let me clarify.He/she "made" the team again this season and accepted the position on the roster.The child is old enough to drive,so I'm sure he/she helped maked the decision.Again,honesty goes a long way in fostering mutual respect between parent,coach and player.I might not agree with the decision but, I will respect them for it. This is the way life long friendships and successful Business relationships are built.

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Agreed,but let me clarify.He/she "made" the team again this season and accepted the position on the roster.The child is old enough to drive,so I'm sure he/she helped maked the decision.Again,honesty goes a long way in fostering mutual respect between parent,coach and player.I might not agree with the decision but, I will respect them for it. This is the way life long friendships and successful Business relationships are built.

I've got a non driver, but could have been on the other side. We didn't accept, but were asked to say we would if asked.

This is still June, no payments due, so you were told pretty early. You likely have time to fill that spot.

While June seems like a good time to check the client's temperature, the best time to get feedback so you can make adjustments or come to mutual understandings is throughout the season. I know that is difficult when the coach has to be above any questioning, but for us, "the conversation" came after the season. The coach is in charge - we all understand that - but sometimes feedback by parents isn't appreciated. If the only thing you want to know is can I count on you being back, then you don't want to know too much - and I'm not saying this is you.

Do you give feedback to the kids during and after games? How about the parents? Do you want to know how they think things are going? Even with some good communication people are going to leave, but it cuts down on surprises.

Message for my child's ex coach. We really appreciate all you've done for my child and the team. We respect the decisions you've made and would recommend you to others. Maybe we'll get burned where we are going and want to come back (if you'll have us). Things did not go as we expected this year and we hope we are making the right decision moving forward for our kid. We know that you wish them well and hope its the best decision for them too. Would have liked to be more up front about our move, but didn't feel comfortable based on our relationship.