Bolts good or bad option?

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Pretty much every club is the same in this regard, it depends 100% on if you have a good coach and they all have good coaches and bad (sometimes very bad) coaches. Biggest mistake parents and kids make is choosing a club and not a coach.

Well said. The coach matters. Clubs are for profit businesses.

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Well said. The coach matters. Clubs are for profit businesses.

Agree but to some degree the coach is limited by what they club can provide. At a certain point/age/level the club does matter.

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FI and DW reunited soon with the merger

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FI and DW reunited soon with the merger

Is there an article or press release?

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Merger?

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FI and DW reunited soon with the merger

Say what?

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Say what?

Defund the Moderators! The bs posed in this forum may as well be spewed from Marjorie Taylor Greene's propaganda machine. Who posts here, Hoby Buchanon? Stop with the nonsense!

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Defund the Moderators! The bs posed in this forum may as well be spewed from Marjorie Taylor Greene's propaganda machine. Who posts here, Hoby Buchanon? Stop with the nonsense!

Best comment so have ever read on this message boards.

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Say what?

Looks like round 2 of bolts exodus and making a larger club with the guys down route 3

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Who's leaving, the South Shore region? Are they joining old friend BA at SSS? Teaming up with LFC? Mass City? Not sure why you feel the need to be so cryptic in an anonymous post. Spill it (even if you're making it up).

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With this thread bubbling up again, anyone know Bolts latest plan for a home base after they get the boot from Mt Ida?

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Even if this is probably a troll job, I'll play.

Guessing from the reference to DW we're talking about Bolts SS splitting off?

Were DW and BA pals at Bolts before BA got sent packing? Still not sure I see Bolts SS moving to Select as the move being strangely hinted at here. What does Select's latest effort to start a boys program have to offer them anyway? Bolts SS just moved from ECRL to NAL. Select just moved to the ECNL ecosystem, so are those Bolts SS kids going to go back to ECRL and all that travel one year later? For what? NAL is a great spot for them.

And if the hint is a Bolts-LFC merger, why would LFC not merge with Seacoast instead? LFC and Seacoast are both 3Step and LFC girls already merged with Seacoast.

I don't know who FI is. That might help.

This is a fun game!

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Even if this is probably a troll job, I'll play.

Guessing from the reference to DW we're talking about Bolts SS splitting off?

Were DW and BA pals at Bolts before BA got sent packing? Still not sure I see Bolts SS moving to Select as the move being strangely hinted at here. What does Select's latest effort to start a boys program have to offer them anyway? Bolts SS just moved from ECRL to NAL. Select just moved to the ECNL ecosystem, so are those Bolts SS kids going to go back to ECRL and all that travel one year later? For what? NAL is a great spot for them.

And if the hint is a Bolts-LFC merger, why would LFC not merge with Seacoast instead? LFC and Seacoast are both 3Step and LFC girls already merged with Seacoast.

I don't know who FI is. That might help.

This is a fun game!

FI left the Bolts and took the girls’ teams with him to Mass City this fall. I would love to know if there’s some truth to this or if it’s someone trolling. I have a hard time believing that the
Bolts ever merge with MC, but would FI jump ship so soon? Kind of doubt that, too

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FI left the Bolts and took the girls’ teams with him to Mass City this fall. I would love to know if there’s some truth to this or if it’s someone trolling. I have a hard time believing that the
Bolts ever merge with MC, but would FI jump ship so soon? Kind of doubt that, too

Sorry to hear about that! I'm bearing in mind that you're 20 years old. That means that you're life experience(s) are not sufficient to put this in perspective. I don't know what neck of the woods you officiate in, but, reach out to senior officials. Not so much for assessing you, I don't think you can really mess up a 12 year old game, but more to first advise on how to deal with this type of dissent.

I officiate at some fairly high maintenance levels (UPSL, etc.). Some of those players and coaches get extremely "passionate". They look for YOU draw the line on how much dissent you will accept. Don't lose your composure (that just tells them, they're getting to you).,,, WALK to the coach, "please get your parent under control" and go back to your match. NEVER engage with parents PERIOD!!!!! Things continue, walk to the middle of the field, 3 whistles, match's done! Collect your crew, you're done. No muss, no fuss. No need for YOU to lose your composure. Yes, IFAB, FIFA, USSF, have the Ask, Tell, Remove.,,, that's GUIDANCE, NOT hard & fast. Depending on what's said, I CALMLY walk over tell them, "for the match to continue, you need to leave the venue" I also make it clear, it s THEIR decision as to stay or go. I don't debate or go back and forth. They leave or I leave, NOT a big deal. I'm going on 19 years officiating, 200-300 matches/year, I've abandoned fewer that 10 matches. Anyone approaches, CALMLY advise you'll be happy to notify police. Here in TX, just the verbal, "I'll see you in the parking lot" is a felony offense (that means minimum of 365 days in prison). Cops & Judges LOVE these kinds of cases! Will they get that sentence for it, probably not.,,, they will be out a few thousand $$$$ in lawyer fees and time off work to answer the charge.

2nd bit of advise, and take this constructively, MAN UP! If you're going to lose it because some numbskulls talked ugly to you, you need to find something else to do. I say that as an old fart who was raised in an environment markedly different that these days.

Your association/assignor needs to be advised. They'll provide you with support. When I'm assisting new/young officials in the middle, I tell them I'll provide assistance in dealing w/high maintenance coaches, but I also tell them, sometimes I'm going to let the coach go so that they (the new official) can learn how to handle them. Calling/recognizing fouls is a starting point. You've not said what you hope to do w/your officiating career (and I hope you continue, it's a great training ground for real world decision making), but MANAGING the match (players, coaches) is where YOU separate yourself from the masses.

With all that I've said, bear in mind, this is not something you'll learn/develop overnight. It's a process.,,,, that takes TIME! What works with one match, player, coach, etc may not work with others. You have to be comfortable with the goat/hero scenario. When you step out on to the pitch, you're gonna do two things,... make the right call(s) (99%), and you'll make some wrong calls (we call that being human!). Graham Poll gave 3 cautions to the same player, Howard Webb didn't see a cleats to the chest (both incidents at WC finals!). Their response, "I 'effed up!' That's why we debrief at half-time, after the match, and later in the week after the match.

Hang in there Dude!

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Sorry to hear about that! I'm bearing in mind that you're 20 years old. That means that you're life experience(s) are not sufficient to put this in perspective. I don't know what neck of the woods you officiate in, but, reach out to senior officials. Not so much for assessing you, I don't think you can really mess up a 12 year old game, but more to first advise on how to deal with this type of dissent.

I officiate at some fairly high maintenance levels (UPSL, etc.). Some of those players and coaches get extremely "passionate". They look for YOU draw the line on how much dissent you will accept. Don't lose your composure (that just tells them, they're getting to you).,,, WALK to the coach, "please get your parent under control" and go back to your match. NEVER engage with parents PERIOD!!!!! Things continue, walk to the middle of the field, 3 whistles, match's done! Collect your crew, you're done. No muss, no fuss. No need for YOU to lose your composure. Yes, IFAB, FIFA, USSF, have the Ask, Tell, Remove.,,, that's GUIDANCE, NOT hard & fast. Depending on what's said, I CALMLY walk over tell them, "for the match to continue, you need to leave the venue" I also make it clear, it s THEIR decision as to stay or go. I don't debate or go back and forth. They leave or I leave, NOT a big deal. I'm going on 19 years officiating, 200-300 matches/year, I've abandoned fewer that 10 matches. Anyone approaches, CALMLY advise you'll be happy to notify police. Here in TX, just the verbal, "I'll see you in the parking lot" is a felony offense (that means minimum of 365 days in prison). Cops & Judges LOVE these kinds of cases! Will they get that sentence for it, probably not.,,, they will be out a few thousand $$$$ in lawyer fees and time off work to answer the charge.

2nd bit of advise, and take this constructively, MAN UP! If you're going to lose it because some numbskulls talked ugly to you, you need to find something else to do. I say that as an old fart who was raised in an environment markedly different that these days.

Your association/assignor needs to be advised. They'll provide you with support. When I'm assisting new/young officials in the middle, I tell them I'll provide assistance in dealing w/high maintenance coaches, but I also tell them, sometimes I'm going to let the coach go so that they (the new official) can learn how to handle them. Calling/recognizing fouls is a starting point. You've not said what you hope to do w/your officiating career (and I hope you continue, it's a great training ground for real world decision making), but MANAGING the match (players, coaches) is where YOU separate yourself from the masses.

With all that I've said, bear in mind, this is not something you'll learn/develop overnight. It's a process.,,,, that takes TIME! What works with one match, player, coach, etc may not work with others. You have to be comfortable with the goat/hero scenario. When you step out on to the pitch, you're gonna do two things,... make the right call(s) (99%), and you'll make some wrong calls (we call that being human!). Graham Poll gave 3 cautions to the same player, Howard Webb didn't see a cleats to the chest (both incidents at WC finals!). Their response, "I 'effed up!' That's why we debrief at half-time, after the match, and later in the week after the match.

Hang in there Dude!

You’ve got to be responding to the wrong thread here … I’m definitely not 20, nor a ref!!!