When someone elses kid is better!

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You live in a fantasy world. If this were true is should be a Harvard University case study.[/

Parents bullying other kids through their children. Is their any case studies on this?

I was thinking the same thing. I thought that stuff was reserved for Coke vs. New Coke and how the Internet ruined the music business. Helicopter soccer moms not so much.

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I was thinking the same thing. I thought that stuff was reserved for Coke vs. New Coke and how the Internet ruined the music business. Helicopter soccer moms not so much.

I am a teenager reading through soccer website and I see stuff like this. There is no real mom on this thread. You are pathetic, loser who needs to get a job.....WOW! I feel bad for your children. I hope they are not as messed up as you psycho MOMs are.....

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Jealousy and envy are normal reactions and should be assumed to be some kind of evil emotion. If you were ever a person who didn't want something more or better then we would be driven into mediocrity. It is a natural feeling to be successful and a desire to be superior. It is what makes us better and stronger. It is when jealousy becomes consuming that it is bad. However, it is a driving force for people to want to be something that they may not be at the time, or perhaps ever. It forces a reevaluation of self and of relationships. Depending on one's upbringing or supportive structure, jealousy can either turn into a constructive or destructive energy.

Parents who are jealous of other kids is a little dysfunctional but should be turned into more support for their own kid to develop in directions and avenues that he/she can be successful. As an earlier poster alluded to, if the child enjoys the activity then continue the support as you cannot really predict how kids will grow and mature, therefore continued learning of the skill will always set you up for some level of success.

One troubling thing about today's society is to attempt to eliminate chances of jealousy and envy from happening as some feel (mostly Democrat) that if kids are made to feel envious or jealous that they will become depressed and turn into some kind of violetent murdering psychopath. For example not publishing the honor roles for schools because it makes others feel bad is a reverse destructive practice. It is alright to feel bad, jealous, and envious of things and others as it provides a drive to be better. It is also provides reward to those who 'make it' whether it be the honor role or a soccer team.

This has similarities to the discussion as to whether or not 'everyone should get a trophy'. The answer is 'no'; not everyone wins, but it does not mean that they can't feel good about what they are doing. This is where parents need to be parents and be supportive and not destructive.

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I am a teenager reading through soccer website and I see stuff like this. There is no real mom on this thread. You are pathetic, loser who needs to get a job.....WOW! I feel bad for your children. I hope they are not as messed up as you psycho MOMs are.....

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You know what the boys say. If you want to know what she'll look like if you marry her.. look at the Mom. [cut to car screeching out of the parking lot]

You know what the girls say. If you want to know what he'll look like if you marry him...look at the dad. Survey the fields in Lancaster and personal observation will prove there's more good looking soccer moms than soccer dads. The ladies generally still have their hair and their guts do not protrude as much.

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You know what the girls say. If you want to know what he'll look like if you marry him...look at the dad. Survey the fields in Lancaster and personal observation will prove there's more good looking soccer moms than soccer dads. The ladies generally still have their hair and their guts do not protrude as much.

You mean the Dads are more secure with themselves?

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You mean the Dads are more secure with themselves?

Hmmmm. Didn't know letting yourself go is a sign of security. More like laziness.

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Hmmmm. Didn't know letting yourself go is a sign of security. More like laziness.

I'm sure all of the above.

Interesting that another thread veers miles away from the OP.

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Hmmmm. Didn't know letting yourself go is a sign of security. More like laziness.

Don't lump all the Dad's into one group of "very secured"....there are plenty of us who are very insecure and still out of shape! But we got the $$$$ and also the insecure good looking soccer mom. LOL.

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I'm sure all of the above.

Interesting that another thread veers miles away from the OP.

Yes, sad that it veers so far from actually talking about soccer and devolves into muck instead.

I've no beef with how soccer parents look as long as they're nice. Just sticking up for soccer moms who some posters--most likely men---labeled as fat and crazed.

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You live in a fantasy world. If this were true is should be a Harvard University case study.

Not the op. It is not fantasy world.
A couple MPS teams are that way. Mom is TM and has access to high school fields.
Do you think her kid is not playing ? Think again.

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Jealousy and envy are normal reactions and should be assumed to be some kind of evil emotion. If you were ever a person who didn't want something more or better then we would be driven into mediocrity. It is a natural feeling to be successful and a desire to be superior. It is what makes us better and stronger. It is when jealousy becomes consuming that it is bad. However, it is a driving force for people to want to be something that they may not be at the time, or perhaps ever. It forces a reevaluation of self and of relationships. Depending on one's upbringing or supportive structure, jealousy can either turn into a constructive or destructive energy.

Parents who are jealous of other kids is a little dysfunctional but should be turned into more support for their own kid to develop in directions and avenues that he/she can be successful. As an earlier poster alluded to, if the child enjoys the activity then continue the support as you cannot really predict how kids will grow and mature, therefore continued learning of the skill will always set you up for some level of success.

One troubling thing about today's society is to attempt to eliminate chances of jealousy and envy from happening as some feel (mostly Democrat) that if kids are made to feel envious or jealous that they will become depressed and turn into some kind of violetent murdering psychopath. For example not publishing the honor roles for schools because it makes others feel bad is a reverse destructive practice. It is alright to feel bad, jealous, and envious of things and others as it provides a drive to be better. It is also provides reward to those who 'make it' whether it be the honor role or a soccer team.

This has similarities to the discussion as to whether or not 'everyone should get a trophy'. The answer is 'no'; not everyone wins, but it does not mean that they can't feel good about what they are doing. This is where parents need to be parents and be supportive and not destructive.

Last year a news mag. carried info on the conviction of a texas Mom who murdered her daughters competition to get cheerleading capt. of their squad in HS.
Sure she appeared normal until ... and bet she was the TM of the squad.

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I think she had the cheerleader's mom killed, not the cheerleader herself. Her reasoning was the cheerleader would be so distraught over her mom's death that she would drop out of cheer leading.

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I think she had the cheerleader's mom killed, not the cheerleader herself. Her reasoning was the cheerleader would be so distraught over her mom's death that she would drop out of cheer leading.

Ahhhhhhh clear thinking. IMO if u find urself getting jealous of ur kids teammates/ friends u have way to much time on ur hands and need to get a job, another job, a hobby, another hobby, distance from ur kid and their friends/team and some soul searching for adult balance. A therapist too.

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you mean the dads are more secure with themselves?

lmao....