When someone elses kid is better!

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When someone else's kid is better, the strong basic maternal instinct of mothers may be evident. Especially if their child is a first born female, but perhaps even stronger if the player is a first born male.

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Any coach who would fall for that is just an idiot. Team managers should have no input whatsoever in coaching decisions. If your TM is running the show leave.

Regarding the jealousy issues it is rampant and its more the backstabbing that goes on particularly with girls teams and their moms comparing playing time and doing everything possible to make sure the new or better player is painted in the worst possible light. Daughter joined a team in winter. There is one girl -- mom is as described above -- who has been told by her mom numerous times not to pass to my daughter. It has been going on for months.

Mid-year switches to teams are difficult. My daughter faced a similar situation an nearly quit soccer. If your daughter is not enjoying herself, move her to another team. Once she's happy she'll play her best and everyone will be better off.

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Just wait until the recruiting years. This is not just about moms. I have seen it with dads too.

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Mid-year switches to teams are difficult. My daughter faced a similar situation an nearly quit soccer. If your daughter is not enjoying herself, move her to another team. Once she's happy she'll play her best and everyone will be better off.

I've noticed that it is usually the parents that are mid to lower tier on a team that start this crap. The parents of the boys at the top want more talented players. Their child is near the top because they thrive on competition and recognized it's part of the game and welcome it.
The personal sniping and behind the scenes maneuvering crap might work for a season or two but long-term talent rises.

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I see these mom's all the time in my kids club. They are usually over weight and walk around in packs texting to each other. Funny though, I never see their husbands with them.

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More then likely raised in a rigid household. Now they have something they think they can control; their child's soccer team. In the end their behavior becomes some over bearing that the ones that once loved them, leave them. Their easy to spot and I just ignore them even though they did play the ball isolation game with my kid too.

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How about if you just tell your kid to go have fun, do their best and live their life. Don't live your life through them.

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How about if you just tell your kid to go have fun, do their best and live their life. Don't live your life through them.

Ok soccer mom! Thanks for the advice.

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More then likely raised in a rigid household. Now they have something they think they can control; their child's soccer team. In the end their behavior becomes some over bearing that the ones that once loved them, leave them. Their easy to spot and I just ignore them even though they did play the ball isolation game with my kid too.

Possibly regarding the rigid household, but it could also be subject to where they where in the birth order of the other children ( if any ) of their family. If they are an only child, different dynamics for sure.

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I see these mom's all the time in my kids club. They are usually over weight and walk around in packs texting to each other. Funny though, I never see their husbands with them.

Their husbands bring bad luck by looking at their daughter ...

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I see these mom's all the time in my kids club. They are usually over weight and walk around in packs texting to each other. Funny though, I never see their husbands with them.

You know what the boys say. If you want to know what she'll look like if you marry her.. look at the Mom. [cut to car screeching out of the parking lot]

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Any coach who would fall for that is just an idiot. Team managers should have no input whatsoever in coaching decisions. If your TM is running the show leave.

Regarding the jealousy issues it is rampant and its more the backstabbing that goes on particularly with girls teams and their moms comparing playing time and doing everything possible to make sure the new or better player is painted in the worst possible light. Daughter joined a team in winter. There is one girl -- mom is as described above -- who has been told by her mom numerous times not to pass to my daughter. It has been going on for months.

She got the coach fired too. She was well connected to the club management. And yes we did leave.

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She got the coach fired too. She was well connected to the club management. And yes we did leave.

What club?

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She got the coach fired too. She was well connected to the club management. And yes we did leave.

You live in a fantasy world. If this were true is should be a Harvard University case study.

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[QUOTE=Unregistered;990832]You live in a fantasy world. If this were true is should be a Harvard University case study.[/

Parents bullying other kids through their children. Is their any case studies on this?