Is it a perquisite parents need to be FDBs or does it just happen that way as a coincidence ?
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it is indeed a perquisite. It is not a prerequisite. The envy just happens, and some are bothered by it, but coincidently, I love being an FDB.
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We are new to the program so don’t have any history, but it’s my understanding there is a little chest-puffing that goes on. I happened to be near some Blue parents and not sure Id call them Dbags. A little over the top, sure but meh…. Heard A LOT worse.
Side note- Not sure I’d call it envy either. To me if you are good then you don’t need to say it. I didn’t see anything to be envious of. Two good teams and one more deserving to win than the other and proved it out. No desire to get in the middle of that blood feud.Comment
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I'm new to this... what's FDBs? Is that like a disease or a drug or something?Comment
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New to MA as well, obviously, welcome to the state try not to be a F'in D-Bag.Originally posted by Guest View Post
Blue parents run the gamut, from knowledgeable and chill to anxious and smug. The ones I've heard complain talk about parents on other clubs who keep poking them when they lose and won't let it go (SSS parents especially). So some of them snap back, which keeps these ECNL/GA badge-measuring contests going.Comment
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Somebody especially bother you?Comment
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Sideline culture will vary across teams and over age-groups. What remains constant is other clubs perception of Stars Blue. There are def a few DBs on any sideline and Blue is no different, but it gets amplified. My D just finished and we came to Stars relatively late. I had all the same perceptions of Stars parents only to find it was very different than what I thought.
There was far less drama at Stars and parents mostly just kept to themselves. No parent has any role in team management, and there is no attempt to organize “everyone’s invited” activities off the field. Of course parents find their way to the bar and friendships emerge, but at least for the teams my D was on, the players “got theirs” from a recruiting standpoint which eliminates a lot of cattinessComment
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"... we came to Stars relatively late.." So you have no experience with the middle-school parents. That's when the FDBs peakOriginally posted by Guest View PostComment
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It makes sense. U12 to U15 is when these kids are mostly to be cut. Every new player is a threat, etc.Originally posted by Guest View PostComment
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The height of lunacy and optimism is middle school. Fun to dream about what might be ahead when your kid wins a game and their team is atop the list of baddest little team in the land.
Carrying the brand of Stars Blue is a lot of pressure when the talent is still distributed all over the state.Comment
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I’m sure it’s pressure and from my understanding it’s pretty cutthroat even within the team.
Thats for the players though. Odd to see parents walking and acting like they shlt perfumeComment
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It is what it is. If your kid is on that team I hope you do your best to make sure their identity isn’t wrapped up in being a soccer star. Kids have other interests and end up struggling with depression later after parents ignore their interests. Sometimes these kids don’t get the D1 or D2 commits and feel like a failure and become depressed. I feel bad for some of these kids. By the way there is pressure not only on the National blue but every club team as the lower teams have players working hard to move up to higher teams.Comment
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They hate us because they ain’t us.Originally posted by Guest View Post
Im joking here is the problem with parents some are just naturally DB’s and want their kid to play on the so called top team so they can brag to their friends. Some are closest DB’s but when around other DB’s it comes out. Others are just going with the crowd.
A lot of this stems from the club/coaching environment. Kids/parents feed off how a coach acts.
If you have a calm coach and tells parents to relax not some many DB’s on the sideline. Unfortunately there will always be DB’s on the sideline.Comment
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