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    Try Out Ethics

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    Last edited by anonymous01; 06-24-2011, 12:22 AM.

    #2
    Buy a couple field hockey sticks.

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      #3
      Originally posted by anonymous01 View Post
      What would you do if you found out your team manager had invited your club coach over to introduce him to new girls trying out for his club team? After tryouts your daughters don't make the team, but the girls who were recently introduced to the coach do.
      Unless this is a trick question, I would look for a new club/team.

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        #4
        What does ethics have to do with this? Isn't it the job of a club to pick the best possible players for their squad? I'm sorry if your family was surprised by the clubs decision not to offer your daughter a spot. That is never a fun experience.

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          #5
          Coaches job too!

          Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
          What does ethics have to do with this? Isn't it the job of a club to pick the best possible players for their squad? I'm sorry if your family was surprised by the clubs decision not to offer your daughter a spot. That is never a fun experience.
          It is the clubs job to do so. The problem with some parents: They don't care if their kid belongs on the team or not. EX: Kid on my sons team gets picked after tryouts and isn't the player coach thought he was. 8V8 by the way. Kid still gets decent playing time but not what parents want so they complain and stir up the pot on the side line and make it miserable for everyone involved. Parents are CRAZY and can not see the writing on the wall. Thank god he went to another club, a club that is so small they don't have tryouts. Poor kid, sometimes the parents care more about playing time than the kids.

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            #6
            I think the clubs have the right to do this, but it would be much kinder and better for the kids who were being cut if the coach talked to them about what they were lacking and how to improve so that they could better themselves with their next endeavor. If he sees the writing on the wall early---give the kid a chance to step it up. Not fun to hear in the middle of a season that you might be going to the next lower team, but at least it's honest and gives the kid a few games to turn it around... "I need more from you in these areas...." is both a fair and effective way to help players get better. Do it outside of a game after a practice or another time... Even if the coach still elects to cut them, they won't be blindsided and can hopefully work on whatever their shortcomings are in their next club. Soccer isn't all about the win. It's also about developing strong confident human beings. And that is only cultivated when you have enough respect to tell them the truth about their play.

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              #7
              At the younger ages, if you are not getting written and verbal feedback/evaluations after the fall season and at the end of the year, switch clubs. They are not interested in developing your kid. Kind of like going to school without getting a report card or having a parent-teacher conference.

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                #8
                Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                I think the clubs have the right to do this, but it would be much kinder and better for the kids who were being cut if the coach talked to them about what they were lacking and how to improve so that they could better themselves with their next endeavor. If he sees the writing on the wall early---give the kid a chance to step it up. Not fun to hear in the middle of a season that you might be going to the next lower team, but at least it's honest and gives the kid a few games to turn it around... "I need more from you in these areas...." is both a fair and effective way to help players get better. Do it outside of a game after a practice or another time... Even if the coach still elects to cut them, they won't be blindsided and can hopefully work on whatever their shortcomings are in their next club. Soccer isn't all about the win. It's also about developing strong confident human beings. And that is only cultivated when you have enough respect to tell them the truth about their play.
                Often when this happens parent hear what they want to hear and kids don't hear anything at all.

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                  #9
                  Folks this may come across as harsh but you need to come to grips with the fact that this is not an all inclusive activity at the club level and that you are dealing with a business not some recreational program. Unfortunately you will find things only get harsher as you move up through the years and if you can't accept the inherant "unfairness" of it all you should probably jump off the treadmll right now. Don't feel bad though because you will end up saving yourself tens of thousands of dollars by doing that and will end up feeling a whole lot smarter than the bulk of us.

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                    #10
                    Noticed the OP removed her remarks to start this thread. Seems she was very naive to the world of club soccer.

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                      #11
                      I can't until the original poster realizes that components of town sports are no different. Starting in the Spring of U9 the town club selects its coaches who then select their A and B travel teams. Not too disimilar from the clubs....some kids don't get selected to play on the A team. One major difference is that you aren't paying nearly as much. However, you find yourself having to be a parent and soften the blow to your child. Yes...you have to interact and redirect....as a parent. It isn't the clubs fault...it isn't anyone's fault. It is just a reality.

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                        I can't until the original poster realizes that components of town sports are no different. Starting in the Spring of U9 the town club selects its coaches who then select their A and B travel teams. Not too disimilar from the clubs....some kids don't get selected to play on the A team. One major difference is that you aren't paying nearly as much. However, you find yourself having to be a parent and soften the blow to your child. Yes...you have to interact and redirect....as a parent. It isn't the clubs fault...it isn't anyone's fault. It is just a reality.
                        And both often have the terrible political side over quality.

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