How do you deal with blatant favoritism on your team? To the point where playing time is an issue, and development is being sacrificed as well as confidence. We don't have a lot of choices where we live, but it's gotten so bad. Tried to bring it up to the coach but he brushed it off. Talking development age here. Any advice would help.
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Need more info. Is the coach's kid getting more minutes? Only one kid playing striker? Elaborate.Comment
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Yes coaches kid plays entire game. Favorites play desired positions, non favorites sit more and get put in goal when they don't want to. Favorites make mistakes that are overlooked while non favorites get pulled of the field and yelled at. Favorites not any more skilled than non favorites by no means are they super stars.Originally posted by Unregistered View PostComment
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Age? Boys or Girls?Comment
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If there is a daddy coach involved run fast. Basic conflict of interest and never works. Daddy's boy never plays defender and your kid will pay for it.Comment
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If there are other kids being treated the same way talk with those parents first. You could go to the coach or even the club as a group. The club especially won't be happy if multiple families are on in the verge of leaving. See if any headway can be made there.Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
Meanwhile start looking elsewhere. Late winter early spring is the time to get your player to practices at other clubs. Don't wait until tryouts. If the situation doesn't improve then you've got a place lined up for their next gigComment
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Club or Town?
Was a culture or set of priorities described to parents at beginning of year: play to win vs. play equally?Comment
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Favoritism has no place in youth soccer whether at the club or town level. Any coach who is trying to win a ulittle game at all costs, even by sacrificing player development for a win, has no business coaching. Travel if you have to, but get away from there as fast as possible before it's too late.Comment
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"Coaches kid".
Can't add anything more than that.
Run.Comment
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We have the same problem only our coach has no kids on the team. Rather he is a paid coach who was a job he wants to keep and a reputation to maintain. May be even worse than the daddy coach situation.Comment
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For town, daddy coaches are fine. Often they are super invested in the whole team, going above and beyond to get tournaments, give rides, even offset costs. Daddy coaches are often also motivated to get education and licensing. Sure, the coach's kid gets more playing time, but it should not be significantly damaging to others and the dad has earned it through his efforts. If a big problem, buy him a beer and have a chat.Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
If premier, however, then, yeah. Either have your wife be the team manager, and reap those benefits, nudge nudge wink wink say no more say no MORE, or just go to a club with a more professional approach.Comment
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Sounds like we'll never know if he has it, or could get it, if not given the chance.Originally posted by Unregistered View PostComment
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