My daughter has been on the same team last few years and think she could be cut. Should we expect some sort of notification or just an offer for the lower team? Any etiquette on this?
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If there is a lower team, she would be given an offer for it. They wouldn't cut an A team player completely from the club if there are B and C teams. She would just drop a level. (Unless the parents have done something egregious, and you would know).
It is not a big deal, though it may seem like it at the time. It can be a huge confidence boost to be one of the best players on the team. I have seen kids move down a level and stay there, but I've also seen kids move down a level and then move steadily up.
Hang in there!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostMy daughter has been on the same team last few years and think she could be cut. Should we expect some sort of notification or just an offer for the lower team? Any etiquette on this?
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If you don't find out about any potential issues with your daughter staying on the same team before you get an offer letter... go to a club that might actually care about her.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostIf you don't find out about any potential issues with your daughter staying on the same team before you get an offer letter... go to a club that might actually care about her.
My kid was a B-teamer for a while and coach was clear in their reasoning. Putting her at a level she wasn't prepared for likely would've just driven her from the game.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostIf you don't find out about any potential issues with your daughter staying on the same team before you get an offer letter... go to a club that might actually care about her.
Are younger and have really bonded last few years. Also some of the girls on the lower team are B town travel level. A few are also on her A town team and she’s done with that this year as it’s frustrating with lower players. It would be a big drop. Don’t know if we should leave the club (one with easier commute) or tolerate it for a year hoping that the next they go to 11v11 and she gets added back. Think a big issue is many are starting to hit puberty and hasn’t. Growth spurt still coming! 😝
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostIf you don't find out about any potential issues with your daughter staying on the same team before you get an offer letter... go to a club that might actually care about her.
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You'll get the offer letter that says they are so pleased offer your daughter a place on the Metro-Central-Elite-White team with a very talented group of players, hoping you'll think they just rearranged the red, blue, and white order they had this year to keep things interesting. Then you'll find out after you sign the contract that she was cut to a lower team.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI feel like she should get some sort of reach out. The girls
Are younger and have really bonded last few years. Also some of the girls on the lower team are B town travel level. A few are also on her A town team and she’s done with that this year as it’s frustrating with lower players. It would be a big drop. Don’t know if we should leave the club (one with easier commute) or tolerate it for a year hoping that the next they go to 11v11 and she gets added back. Think a big issue is many are starting to hit puberty and hasn’t. Growth spurt still coming! 😝
Ok, your dd is U11 going to U12, still 9v9. A roster of 12? So she is in
bottom 1/3 of the roster if you are afraid she will be cut. She has been
on this team since U9? Not a starter and maybe 20 minutes of pt?
Teams change all the time and bonding is not the issue to think about.
You got think about her personal development. Dropping down to the B
team will wreck her confidence and bruise your ego among the parents.
If she and you, especially YOU, have the strength to fight through this,
then I would consider it staying. But it usually doesn't work that way.
The keys are personal development and what goals are you thinking about
for her. College ball? hs? Just for fun, exercise and friends? Reason why
I ask if to realize that puberty, love of the game, and frankly genetics,
will change things in the next few years. She could quit b/c she doesn't
love it anymore. Boys. School. Whatever.
I don't know the particulars, but if I were you, I would find the coach
that wants her to be on her team, not default by being cut. You need
to foster her love of the game. This is key: She needs to play as
many minutes as possible. Don't think of the badge. Also, make your
life easier with the easy commute. This is a long journey that could
end at any moment due to injury, disinterest, etc.
My dd just got past this time of transition and she is on recruiting
path for college. Most likely D1 or academic D3, which depends
on the school. Btw, my 2nd rodeo with her. Good luck.
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IMO, club/team/coach owes it to A team players to be upfront about whether they're in danger of being put on a lower team. The damage to confidence in a young girl is huge and if she's been working hard, showing up to everything and still isn't at their A standard then they should be professionals and be transparent with the parents and player that moving down is a possibility. Waiting until after you commit would be a sleazy, weak move on their part. It would show the primary interest is in money and frankly should be a warning to anyone on the A team about how the club acts.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostTo pose the question is to know the answer.
Ok, your dd is U11 going to U12, still 9v9. A roster of 12? So she is in
bottom 1/3 of the roster if you are afraid she will be cut. She has been
on this team since U9? Not a starter and maybe 20 minutes of pt?
Teams change all the time and bonding is not the issue to think about.
You got think about her personal development. Dropping down to the B
team will wreck her confidence and bruise your ego among the parents.
If she and you, especially YOU, have the strength to fight through this,
then I would consider it staying. But it usually doesn't work that way.
The keys are personal development and what goals are you thinking about
for her. College ball? hs? Just for fun, exercise and friends? Reason why
I ask if to realize that puberty, love of the game, and frankly genetics,
will change things in the next few years. She could quit b/c she doesn't
love it anymore. Boys. School. Whatever.
I don't know the particulars, but if I were you, I would find the coach
that wants her to be on her team, not default by being cut. You need
to foster her love of the game. This is key: She needs to play as
many minutes as possible. Don't think of the badge. Also, make your
life easier with the easy commute. This is a long journey that could
end at any moment due to injury, disinterest, etc.
My dd just got past this time of transition and she is on recruiting
path for college. Most likely D1 or academic D3, which depends
on the school. Btw, my 2nd rodeo with her. Good luck.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostTo pose the question is to know the answer.
Ok, your dd is U11 going to U12, still 9v9. A roster of 12? So she is in
bottom 1/3 of the roster if you are afraid she will be cut. She has been
on this team since U9? Not a starter and maybe 20 minutes of pt?
Teams change all the time and bonding is not the issue to think about.
You got think about her personal development. Dropping down to the B
team will wreck her confidence and bruise your ego among the parents.
If she and you, especially YOU, have the strength to fight through this,
then I would consider it staying. But it usually doesn't work that way.
The keys are personal development and what goals are you thinking about
for her. College ball? hs? Just for fun, exercise and friends? Reason why
I ask if to realize that puberty, love of the game, and frankly genetics,
will change things in the next few years. She could quit b/c she doesn't
love it anymore. Boys. School. Whatever.
I don't know the particulars, but if I were you, I would find the coach
that wants her to be on her team, not default by being cut. You need
to foster her love of the game. This is key: She needs to play as
many minutes as possible. Don't think of the badge. Also, make your
life easier with the easy commute. This is a long journey that could
end at any moment due to injury, disinterest, etc.
My dd just got past this time of transition and she is on recruiting
path for college. Most likely D1 or academic D3, which depends
on the school. Btw, my 2nd rodeo with her. Good luck.
Good luck to your daughter!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostIMO, club/team/coach owes it to A team players to be upfront about whether they're in danger of being put on a lower team. The damage to confidence in a young girl is huge and if she's been working hard, showing up to everything and still isn't at their A standard then they should be professionals and be transparent with the parents and player that moving down is a possibility. Waiting until after you commit would be a sleazy, weak move on their part. It would show the primary interest is in money and frankly should be a warning to anyone on the A team about how the club acts.
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