Now to my soap box.
One of the things that pisses me off about soccer clubs is few of them seem willing to give parents that honest assessment I wrote about above. They feed their families full of Kool-aid and string them along for years, when honestly, any coach worth a dime can give a pretty good educated guess how far a kid is likely to go with soccer even at really early ages. It’s nowhere near a science but having been a coach myself, I know that a good coach can usually tell pretty accurately which kids have a shot and which ones don’t and yet you seldom hear about coaches being frank with parents. When it comes to this issue about helping out in the college process, I believe that most coaches realize that once they telling families where they think their player can play that they are bound to lose a portion of their team so they don’t offer that information. Instead they let the families flounder around on their own spending tens of thousands of dollars with no real sense of where they can hope to go with it all. I’m sorry I think that is just wrong.
The second soapbox item is about the kids. I speak from experience here. Parent’s, if you find yourself doing all of the recruiting work yourself (ie ghosting emails etc), sky rockets should start going off inside your head telling you that your kid is not ready for the college decision. You really can’t and shouldn’t force them into something they are not ready for and honestly you really might want to take a step back and think about how important soccer really is in the equation. Trust me, I’ve been there with one of mine. Your instinct is probably to keep pushing forward hoping that something will click in time for them to capitalize on one of the opportunities that will undoubtedly materialize but you really need to stop and ask yourself what is driving the process, the soccer rat race or your kid’s desire to play in college. I think if you are really honest with yourself you may come to realize that its really the soccer rat race in many such cases. You and your kid may not be on the same sheet of music and if that is the case it will be virtually impossible to find the right fit. That is what you really want, a good fit. Unfortunately I have seen a lot of people (myself included but sort of in the opposite direction) let soccer dictate the choices and that just causes problems down the road. The bottom line advice I offer is if your kid is not ready, don’t push it, even if it means them not playing soccer in college. You’ll both end up happier in the long run.
One of the things that pisses me off about soccer clubs is few of them seem willing to give parents that honest assessment I wrote about above. They feed their families full of Kool-aid and string them along for years, when honestly, any coach worth a dime can give a pretty good educated guess how far a kid is likely to go with soccer even at really early ages. It’s nowhere near a science but having been a coach myself, I know that a good coach can usually tell pretty accurately which kids have a shot and which ones don’t and yet you seldom hear about coaches being frank with parents. When it comes to this issue about helping out in the college process, I believe that most coaches realize that once they telling families where they think their player can play that they are bound to lose a portion of their team so they don’t offer that information. Instead they let the families flounder around on their own spending tens of thousands of dollars with no real sense of where they can hope to go with it all. I’m sorry I think that is just wrong.
The second soapbox item is about the kids. I speak from experience here. Parent’s, if you find yourself doing all of the recruiting work yourself (ie ghosting emails etc), sky rockets should start going off inside your head telling you that your kid is not ready for the college decision. You really can’t and shouldn’t force them into something they are not ready for and honestly you really might want to take a step back and think about how important soccer really is in the equation. Trust me, I’ve been there with one of mine. Your instinct is probably to keep pushing forward hoping that something will click in time for them to capitalize on one of the opportunities that will undoubtedly materialize but you really need to stop and ask yourself what is driving the process, the soccer rat race or your kid’s desire to play in college. I think if you are really honest with yourself you may come to realize that its really the soccer rat race in many such cases. You and your kid may not be on the same sheet of music and if that is the case it will be virtually impossible to find the right fit. That is what you really want, a good fit. Unfortunately I have seen a lot of people (myself included but sort of in the opposite direction) let soccer dictate the choices and that just causes problems down the road. The bottom line advice I offer is if your kid is not ready, don’t push it, even if it means them not playing soccer in college. You’ll both end up happier in the long run.
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