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I can only speak to my experiences on the GIRLS side.
Its actually a great question and the vast majority cannot answer it honestly. They talk about the # of coaches on the sidelines, scholarships , who committed where.
VERY few talk about the love of the game, tactics or its nuances.
The scholarship /college placement becomes the end game that justfitifes the outrageous cost to most and failure in that goals leads to all sorts of recriminations.
The college end game is so powerful that it leads kids to commit to schools that they rationalize they like simply because the soccer coach offers them something. Look at how many transfer once reality sets in.
Is everyone like this? no. But i think the majority of parents in meet in the soccer world are. its a parent driven ego contest and College is the measuring stick.
the reality is, the majority of kids are of similar ability soccer wise and soccer clubs are in the business of telling you they can make the difference for a player.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI would imagine it's a fairly large percentage, actually. There are 63 (yes, 63!) boys teams in U12 NEP that are playing in levels below the 35 Premiership level teams. Save a handful of standout players, who happen to be on a lower level team due to various reasons, most of the parents of kids on these teams are not looking for college scholarships when they know there are 35 teams of kids above them in this league alone (what with the kids in top league brackets throughout the rest of the country competing for college spots, not to mention international players). As kids get older, I'm sure any parent of a kid who is below NPL level has realized that college soccer is not in the cards and are just happy watching their kids enjoy the sport.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI can only speak to my experiences on the GIRLS side.
Its actually a great question and the vast majority cannot answer it honestly. They talk about the # of coaches on the sidelines, scholarships , who committed where.
VERY few talk about the love of the game, tactics or its nuances.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostThis is interesting. My boys have been involved in club soccer for a while, but are still a few years away from the scholarship talk, so this may change with time. However, at this point, the sideline talk is all about tactics, nuances, and love of the game. I'm kind of wondering if there are a lot fewer parents of girls in higher level club soccer who have actually grew up playing the game, and are pushing them to keep playing because of the higher chance for college scholarships. Perhaps on the boys side, kids get involved, and stay involved more because their parents were players growing up and have passed along the love for the game and enjoy teaching it to their kids.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostThis is interesting. My boys have been involved in club soccer for a while, but are still a few years away from the scholarship talk, so this may change with time. However, at this point, the sideline talk is all about tactics, nuances, and love of the game. I'm kind of wondering if there are a lot fewer parents of girls in higher level club soccer who have actually grew up playing the game, and are pushing them to keep playing because of the higher chance for college scholarships. Perhaps on the boys side, kids get involved, and stay involved more because their parents were players growing up and have passed along the love for the game and enjoy teaching it to their kids.
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I can't vouch for too much of what happens on our sidelines....I keep to myself mostly.
Before/after games we'll talk about the weather, football, whatever, but there's so little direct knowledge of the game out there I learned a few years ago to just stay away.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostOur girls sideline is often more like what you describe so not every girl's sideline is talking college. We cover tactics, coaching, position and playing time issues, travel plans, school stuff - both sport and academic, supplementary program critiques, and how do we keep the keeper or keepers happy. Never politics!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostBarely speak to the players even to cheer. My players has requested a quiet sideline policy for me!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostOur girls sideline is often more like what you describe so not every girl's sideline is talking college. We cover tactics, coaching, position and playing time issues, travel plans, school stuff - both sport and academic, supplementary program critiques, and how do we keep the keeper or keepers happy. Never politics!
The rest is just made up to cover the above fact.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostThat's the best policy. Nothing worse than parents who stand on the sidelines and talk crap about the players on their own team loud enough for the players to hear.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostNope. Girls soccer is more competitive and advanced than boys soccer in this country. Move on.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostYou mean just playing time issues...
The rest is just made up to cover the above fact.
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The reason my child doesn't do travel soccer is the same reason people move on from jobs after a number of years... boredom. She is motivated to improve. When she became the best player in town she wanted to play club. When she became the best player on her club team she asked to play for a stronger team. We have no expectation of where she will end up post high school. But she has learned to set goals, work hard, achieve goals, set new goals, and manage set backs. The life skills she has learned are immeasurable. She is a better person for the skills playing club has taught her, and being the best in town would not have provided those lessons.
There is a danger in thinking if kids don't play DAP they should all just play town. There are NEP kids working hard every day for the chance at the next level. Some enjoy playing in an environment that pushes them to find their own personal best.
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