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I think it is interesting, and actually pretty tasteless, that people make their own assumptions about why the OP made those statements.
Just because it all worked out in the end for some of us doesnt mean it is a great system. In fact it is a pretty broken and backward system. Some people end up having a terrible experience. Ours was up and down for sure. The expense, the disloyalty, the cliques, the politics, lies, etc. are hard to over come. I've seen players who have been with a coach for a few years get tossed to the side because the new shiny toy from that really cool club said they want to play for us. I've seen questionable playing time for family friends of a coach. I've seen coaches hold grudges for years. But I've also seen kids have the best times of their lives and make lifetime friends.
Sometimes things are what you make of them. If you have realistic expectations and make a weekend trip a positive event like a mini vacation, the experience can be quite good. If it is all about a college scholarship, you are better off investing the money. Unfortunately it is difficult to find the right situation in all areas but when you do, the positive experience is definitely possible. But because we have turned youth sports into a revenue producing business, we have forgotten that it is supposed to be about the kids and we end up with families like the OP who started out to do something fun and ended up getting caught up in the machine.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI think it is interesting, and actually pretty tasteless, that people make their own assumptions about why the OP made those statements.
Just because it all worked out in the end for some of us doesnt mean it is a great system. In fact it is a pretty broken and backward system. Some people end up having a terrible experience. Ours was up and down for sure. The expense, the disloyalty, the cliques, the politics, lies, etc. are hard to over come. I've seen players who have been with a coach for a few years get tossed to the side because the new shiny toy from that really cool club said they want to play for us. I've seen questionable playing time for family friends of a coach. I've seen coaches hold grudges for years. But I've also seen kids have the best times of their lives and make lifetime friends.
Sometimes things are what you make of them. If you have realistic expectations and make a weekend trip a positive event like a mini vacation, the experience can be quite good. If it is all about a college scholarship, you are better off investing the money. Unfortunately it is difficult to find the right situation in all areas but when you do, the positive experience is definitely possible. But because we have turned youth sports into a revenue producing business, we have forgotten that it is supposed to be about the kids and we end up with families like the OP who started out to do something fun and ended up getting caught up in the machine.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI think it is interesting, and actually pretty tasteless, that people make their own assumptions about why the OP made those statements.
Just because it all worked out in the end for some of us doesnt mean it is a great system. In fact it is a pretty broken and backward system. Some people end up having a terrible experience. Ours was up and down for sure. The expense, the disloyalty, the cliques, the politics, lies, etc. are hard to over come. I've seen players who have been with a coach for a few years get tossed to the side because the new shiny toy from that really cool club said they want to play for us. I've seen questionable playing time for family friends of a coach. I've seen coaches hold grudges for years. But I've also seen kids have the best times of their lives and make lifetime friends.
Sometimes things are what you make of them. If you have realistic expectations and make a weekend trip a positive event like a mini vacation, the experience can be quite good. If it is all about a college scholarship, you are better off investing the money. Unfortunately it is difficult to find the right situation in all areas but when you do, the positive experience is definitely possible. But because we have turned youth sports into a revenue producing business, we have forgotten that it is supposed to be about the kids and we end up with families like the OP who started out to do something fun and ended up getting caught up in the machine.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostDO NOT get suckered into competitive soccer! Every holiday and most weekends will be spent with strangers away from home. Then before you know it, your girl is grown, and you no longer can get that time back. Your time is better spend letting her play locally in a recreational league, and then focus on academics, and other local activities. Holidays should be spent with family, as you can never get that time back.
Sincerely,
A parent that has learned the hard way
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostLife is generally what you make of it - both of my daughters played from 5 years old to 18. Neither one played in college and there was never any chance of that happening. They enjoyed playing and we enjoyed traveling with the other families. Soccer taught them all types of lessons and that translated into GPA's over 4 and academic scholarships. Both girls played with athletes that play or will play D1 and D2 in college so the opportunity was there for those that had the talent.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI think it is interesting, and actually pretty tasteless, that people make their own assumptions about why the OP made those statements.
Just because it all worked out in the end for some of us doesnt mean it is a great system. In fact it is a pretty broken and backward system. Some people end up having a terrible experience. Ours was up and down for sure. The expense, the disloyalty, the cliques, the politics, lies, etc. are hard to over come. I've seen players who have been with a coach for a few years get tossed to the side because the new shiny toy from that really cool club said they want to play for us. I've seen questionable playing time for family friends of a coach. I've seen coaches hold grudges for years. But I've also seen kids have the best times of their lives and make lifetime friends.
Sometimes things are what you make of them. If you have realistic expectations and make a weekend trip a positive event like a mini vacation, the experience can be quite good. If it is all about a college scholarship, you are better off investing the money. Unfortunately it is difficult to find the right situation in all areas but when you do, the positive experience is definitely possible. But because we have turned youth sports into a revenue producing business, we have forgotten that it is supposed to be about the kids and we end up with families like the OP who started out to do something fun and ended up getting caught up in the machine.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostLife is generally what you make of it - both of my daughters played from 5 years old to 18. Neither one played in college and there was never any chance of that happening. They enjoyed playing and we enjoyed traveling with the other families. Soccer taught them all types of lessons and that translated into GPA's over 4 and academic scholarships. Both girls played with athletes that play or will play D1 and D2 in college so the opportunity was there for those that had the talent.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View Postthe negativity in the OP's post was front and center. No one made any assumptions. Your post is just as negative as you are calling anyone who verbalizes their opinion tasteless. You continue the cycle of negativity. We saw little of what some of you complain of. We believe soccer kept all of our kids out of trouble and on a path to college.
It was clear the OP was unhappy and had a very negative experience. What I found classless was that people made the assumption that the OP was at fault. Here is an example.
"Sounds to me like you may have a lot of issues going on and youth soccer may be the least of them."
And then there is this gem.
"Sounds like YOU were the one with grandiose delusions that your daughter would be the best player and get a scholarship to some elite school somewhere. You probably kept pushing her year end and year out to play for the team you thought was the best. At the end she ended up hating you for making her do something she didn't want to do and moved out when old enough. All you remember was probably all the frustrating games and times you had with her arguing about how she could have played better. All of these years when you could have just tried to relax, enjoy the fact that she's playing organize sports and keeping fit instead of laying in the backseat of someone's car. You could have talked to and made friends with the families in the club and made life long friends. You took the extreme route and it didn't work out and you regret it. Boohoo!!"
You, or whoever posted those things, werent there so you have no idea why they had a bad experience. If you arent the chosen few, this experience can be pretty negative.
It is also clear that others thought my post was positive so it is apparent that you just want to justify or argue your point. I guess that is what the internets are all about.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostIt was clear the OP was unhappy and had a very negative experience. What I found classless was that people made the assumption that the OP was at fault. Here is an example.
"Sounds to me like you may have a lot of issues going on and youth soccer may be the least of them."
And then there is this gem.
"Sounds like YOU were the one with grandiose delusions that your daughter would be the best player and get a scholarship to some elite school somewhere. You probably kept pushing her year end and year out to play for the team you thought was the best. At the end she ended up hating you for making her do something she didn't want to do and moved out when old enough. All you remember was probably all the frustrating games and times you had with her arguing about how she could have played better. All of these years when you could have just tried to relax, enjoy the fact that she's playing organize sports and keeping fit instead of laying in the backseat of someone's car. You could have talked to and made friends with the families in the club and made life long friends. You took the extreme route and it didn't work out and you regret it. Boohoo!!"
You, or whoever posted those things, werent there so you have no idea why they had a bad experience. If you arent the chosen few, this experience can be pretty negative.
It is also clear that others thought my post was positive so it is apparent that you just want to justify or argue your point. I guess that is what the internets are all about.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI think initially the problem is that you glossed over the title of this thread and others did not. "Girls club soccer is a waste of family time and money" just girls mind you, not boys. That is how the thread started.
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