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Yup. Poor communication by coaches, and perhaps also parents who are too afraid to seek the truth and ask the hard questions
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostYup. Poor communication by coaches, and perhaps also parents who are too afraid to seek the truth and ask the hard questions
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostThis is very true on the boys side too. You can't convince a parent to have his child play on a B team the entire game instead of sitting on the bench for 90% of a top team game. CRAZY!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostOr parents who don't want to face reality. If your child is playing 10-15 minutes a game there is reason for it. Too many parents want to play the coach, no need to ask tough questions, just easy questions on what s/he needs to work on but even that is most likely already known. You already know the answer to the "tough" questions, it's right there in front of you, just check your watch during the match. You just don't like the answer.
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My very first club soccer experience many years ago was at my kid's tryout for a younger age group, where several of the club's coaches and directors took parents inside to gather in one of the complex's meeting rooms. The coaches posed a simple question to the 150 or so parents.
Which would you prefer -- your kid making the A team and not playing very much or making the B team and playing a lot?
Needless to say the debate that ensued was lively and very entertaining. The obvious take away was how much that discussion reflected first rather than third person.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostTrue story ... a mom bitched and bitched about her daughter not making a club's A team (she was originally placed on B team). Somehow this girl "magically" appeared on A team by season start, but the coach seeing she wasn't a very strong player gave her less time than his starters (but equal to the other lowest bench players). Then this mom proceeded to pull out her iPhone during games and time her kids playing time very publically and then complain to the coach that she was not getting enough. It makes me want to scream. As a parent, I cannot understand how another parent would be so delusional as to think that this is a reasonable course of action. Her daughter would have been a starter on the B team and received lots of field time, but because of her bitching she ends up on the A team and then mom has the balls to then complain about her playing time. The club is just as responsible for cow-towing to the pressure. So once again the adults screw the kids. This girl deserves better all around.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostThat's the problem with pandering to the whiners. I don't think it's deliberate, more like "how can I get this nutcase out of my hair?" But other parents see it and rightfully take the cue that whining pays. See it all the time.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostMy very first club soccer experience many years ago was at my kid's tryout for a younger age group, where several of the club's coaches and directors took parents inside to gather in one of the complex's meeting rooms. The coaches posed a simple question to the 150 or so parents.
Which would you prefer -- your kid making the A team and not playing very much or making the B team and playing a lot?
Needless to say the debate that ensued was lively and very entertaining. The obvious take away was how much that discussion reflected first rather than third person.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostHere is a general rule. If the team is a supposedly an "elite" level team the starters should be expected to play 75% of the minutes. If the team is a true "B" team it is more of a farm team type of mentality and the starters should actually be there trying to move up to the "A". In that case the starters should be expected to play about 60% of the minutes. Any team ranked "C" or below should really have more of a recreational focus and parents should expect equal playing time. A big part of the problem is too many "B" teams think they are really "A's" so the expectations get all screwed up. If a parent wants equal playing time they should go find a "C" team.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostOh boy. What book did you read that in? If your child is playing on highly competitive team then the core starters will play the entire game or almost the entire game. If they played less they wouldn't be at that club. Sometimes life isn't fair, if you really want fair play town.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostEven on the best teams you always need to play your bench in order to prepare them. Never know when you might need a player to step up. Coaches that don't aren't very good coaches.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostEven on the best teams you always need to play your bench in order to prepare them. Never know when you might need a player to step up. Coaches that don't aren't very good coaches.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostAt what age? U17 or U11 or possibly both? Maybe U9 even.
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