I would have preferred my kid to have just made the lower team in the first place so it wasn't such a blow. It has nothing to do with embarrassment but rather level of confidence that I have seen decline tremendously. In comparison to the rest of the team, there is very little difference in abilities.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostRight! And, everyone should get a trophy too!
Ignoring that idiotic response, concentrate on two things:
1) Why. Not good enough? Tough conversation, but play it for love. And, find out where/how to play it for love. Also, hopefully they got good direction from coaching as to "why"? so they have a direction to improve if they want.
2) Become a leader on that team. It is embarassing, and I've been there. But, the world wants to see how we handle adversity. Do we whine and protest when we don't get our way? Or, do we take the positives and lead that team. They are obviously a good player that they made a top team initially, so lead that team.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostIt just means that the particular team/club was not the right place for them. There are a TON of options in your area (I suspect I know which club you're with) - keep looking and find the right fit.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI would have preferred my kid to have just made the lower team in the first place so it wasn't such a blow. It has nothing to do with embarrassment but rather level of confidence that I have seen decline tremendously. In comparison to the rest of the team, there is very little difference in abilities.
Also as a parent keep in mind you may not be qualified to honestly or professionally assess talent
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostThis isn't a soccer thing, it's a parenting thing.
If he/she isn't strong enough to handle disappointment than high level sports is not for them.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostOften there is very little between lower A and top B players. Coaches are human and can make mistakes. Also tryouts are a poor way to assess talent. A coach won't know for sure until they seen the player regularly.
Also as a parent keep in mind you may not be qualified to honestly or professionally assess talent
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostI have played soccer so I know a thing or two but I'm not claiming to be qualified to assess, however I can tell you that some of the top players make mistakes naturally and there really is very little difference in abilities between the bottom A and top B.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostNot the OP, but you are a huge douche. The kid's parents are on here asking for advice on how to help them handle the disappointment. I'm sure your kids are just as douchey as you if this is your response.
http://www.parents.com/parenting/bet...enting/advice/
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Some of these parents are real jerks. I know where you're coming from. Been there with one of mine years ago. My daughter had a hard time with it and wanted to quit at the time. We worked through it and she found her love for soccer again. Eventually she tried out for another club and made their top team where she stayed. Sometimes it's just a matter of the coach and/or club not being the right fit.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostIdiotic response? Hardly. Keep isolating the child from reality. Keep meddling in the affairs of children, and when the enablers are responsible for despair, come up with some nonsense to try and pacify the child and avoid the truth. All the turmoil that exists in Youth Sports is the fault of the child , right? Not the adults who have high jacked it. I get it.
I guess it is not idiotic...just doesn't make any sense.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostYou cannot say this as a parent unless you have a legitimate soccer background. Only the coach's evaluation of your son/daughter's ability that matters.
Since I'm familiar with her and her line of thinking, I can see what she sees and validate it easier.
I am constantly reminding myself to take my blinders off. Sounds easy, but it's not.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostYou cannot say this as a parent unless you have a legitimate soccer background. Only the coach's evaluation of your son/daughter's ability that matters.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostYou are flopping all over in your response. Blame the adults you say...the same adults who want to protect their children from disapointment.
I guess it is not idiotic...just doesn't make any sense.
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