Daughter had a rough year at U11. A team. Coach not the greatest. Definitely had favorites. Feel she didn’t develop much. Still she’s fast and not far off from many others on her team. Still much stronger than most B kids. New coach next year that seems great but worried now she will be cut to B team. She’s played with these girls for a few years so it will be tough on her. Should we expect some sort reach out or just an email offering B team? Feel like if she is cut she deserves some sort of talk. Tough on a young girl. Silly in the scheme of things but stressful as a parent!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostDaughter had a rough year at U11. A team. Coach not the greatest. Definitely had favorites. Feel she didn’t develop much. Still she’s fast and not far off from many others on her team. Still much stronger than most B kids. New coach next year that seems great but worried now she will be cut to B team. She’s played with these girls for a few years so it will be tough on her. Should we expect some sort reach out or just an email offering B team? Feel like if she is cut she deserves some sort of talk. Tough on a young girl. Silly in the scheme of things but stressful as a parent!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostDaughter had a rough year at U11. A team. Coach not the greatest. Definitely had favorites. Feel she didn’t develop much. Still she’s fast and not far off from many others on her team. Still much stronger than most B kids. New coach next year that seems great but worried now she will be cut to B team. She’s played with these girls for a few years so it will be tough on her. Should we expect some sort reach out or just an email offering B team? Feel like if she is cut she deserves some sort of talk. Tough on a young girl. Silly in the scheme of things but stressful as a parent!
Learn from us as I have seen it first hand. The club and the coaches don't care about your kid. Unless they are the coaches kid and then the kid that is a USA league level player can play NPL.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostDaughter had a rough year at U11. A team. Coach not the greatest. Definitely had favorites. Feel she didn’t develop much. Still she’s fast and not far off from many others on her team. Still much stronger than most B kids. New coach next year that seems great but worried now she will be cut to B team. She’s played with these girls for a few years so it will be tough on her. Should we expect some sort reach out or just an email offering B team? Feel like if she is cut she deserves some sort of talk. Tough on a young girl. Silly in the scheme of things but stressful as a parent!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostClubs don't normally demote many players from their A team. Sometimes, players end up on A teams at younger age groups for different reasons and they struggle so demotion is appropriate but tough pill to swallow. Then you may have politics working against you or for someone else to get that spot. By U13 full field you may have a couple of things going for you. Their are more spots on U13 rosters to promote B team girls. At the older age groups, more physical, athletic players move up; that physical developing is happening at ages 12-13. And also some girls are dropping out then. That is when they decide if they are really serious and want to stick with soccer. Also, honestly, college coaches are not looking at girls seriously until U15 or so, so there is time to recover and blossom, if she wants it.
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It can be very tough for kids at that age (well any age) to be in a situation where they are demoted. As some said above, the demotion may not be a bad thing especially since they are still on the smaller field with smaller rosters. In a year when they move to 11v11 the roster size should increase. There is also a very good possibility your child enjoys playing with the lower level team more due to increased playing time and being one of the better players on that team.
One thing I have learned over the years is that coach and clubs do not care about the players. They care about the results and they care about bringing in new players to the club. Many feel that once you are established in the program, that you will accept whatever (especially if you are not an elite player that has a ton of options) just to stay in competitive level soccer.
At the young age of your daughter as long as she is having fun and getting better, the "B" team/"A' team thing doesn't matter as much.
A word of advice, if a coach has a good record, but is constantly churning out the roster (changing 5 or more players each season) then they are not a good coach. They are simply taking advantage of the team success to bring in players developed by other coaches. My oldest realized that by U17 of the original group she started with, only 6 of the 16 remained and while they saw some success their growth was stagnant while several of the players that were cut a developed significantly.
Enjoy the ride, take nothing personally, and only use setbacks as fuel to get better. Good Luck.
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Glad to see some serious replies to an honest question. You don't get that on here all the time. One question I have is do you think she is on a trajectory to play in college or just wanting to have fun? I would only suggest staying in the rat race of elite A team soccer if college is the ultimate goal. Otherwise, just find a place where she likes her teammates, coaches, and gets to play. I have an 03 daughter in ECNL and we are in the middle of the college recruiting game now. If you think tryout season is stressful, wait until you get to this point. Good luck to your daughter!
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostGlad to see some serious replies to an honest question. You don't get that on here all the time. One question I have is do you think she is on a trajectory to play in college or just wanting to have fun? I would only suggest staying in the rat race of elite A team soccer if college is the ultimate goal. Otherwise, just find a place where she likes her teammates, coaches, and gets to play. I have an 03 daughter in ECNL and we are in the middle of the college recruiting game now. If you think tryout season is stressful, wait until you get to this point. Good luck to your daughter!
Now a few kids from our town came to tryouts from another club. Partially based on my daughter being a good player in our town (small city actually). No better, but one has matured early and is probably almost at her adult height. If they cut my daughter and choose one of her friends she will be crushed.
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It can be devastating to the child, especially when she will have to come to practice and see her old team practicing and having fun without her. It is gut wrenching for a parent to see that happen to their child. The other problem is that at this age B teams get no love from the club. Less games, less tournaments, lesser coaches. These clubs need to chill out and let their own kids develop. They recruit for the sake of Gotsoccer points which is worthless at his age.
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Originally posted by Unregistered View PostDaughter had a rough year at U11. A team. Coach not the greatest. Definitely had favorites. Feel she didn’t develop much. Still she’s fast and not far off from many others on her team. Still much stronger than most B kids. New coach next year that seems great but worried now she will be cut to B team. She’s played with these girls for a few years so it will be tough on her. Should we expect some sort reach out or just an email offering B team? Feel like if she is cut she deserves some sort of talk. Tough on a young girl. Silly in the scheme of things but stressful as a parent!
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