Soccer Extreme Pervert

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Highlanders. And that's like 7 years ago so do the math and the girl in the article is after the Highlander's. He convinced a bunch of those girls to skip high school soccer and train all fall. He brought them to a house for a training camp and slept there w them. Parents thought he was different but all thought he was dedicated and passionate. Rumors he stayed in the same hotel room w a player when she was 15. Again, all rumors and nobody ever spoke up. Probably a dozen people on here know exactly which Chase/Highlander girl might have been another target.

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Yes, "Soccer Extreme" is Salvatore's business he run's summer camps and wilton's town program. Salvatore has issue but just being a your typical soccer idiot, he and Soccer Extreme have nothing to do with Adam Allerton.

Adam Allerton had his private coaching business called "Extreme Performance".

You know not what you speak. Have a look at the picture and tell me what this logo says: http://home.gotsoccer.com/rankings/t...?TeamID=206211

Allerton worked for Salvatore before leaving to coach at Chase and starting his own club.

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Highlanders. And that's like 7 years ago so do the math and the girl in the article is after the Highlander's. He convinced a bunch of those girls to skip high school soccer and train all fall. He brought them to a house for a training camp and slept there w them. Parents thought he was different but all thought he was dedicated and passionate. Rumors he stayed in the same hotel room w a player when she was 15. Again, all rumors and nobody ever spoke up. Probably a dozen people on here know exactly which Chase/Highlander girl might have been another target.

what do you mean parents thought he was different? dude sounds like a weirdo

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what do you mean parents thought he was different? dude sounds like a weirdo

He promised a college scholarship path so they overlooked the weirdness

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Highlanders. And that's like 7 years ago so do the math and the girl in the article is after the Highlander's. He convinced a bunch of those girls to skip high school soccer and train all fall. He brought them to a house for a training camp and slept there w them. Parents thought he was different but all thought he was dedicated and passionate. Rumors he stayed in the same hotel room w a player when she was 15. Again, all rumors and nobody ever spoke up. Probably a dozen people on here know exactly which Chase/Highlander girl might have been another target.

Please, no more details about his former player on here. This why victims are afraid to report these things. You obviously are in the know and based on his text message exchange there is little doubt after police became involved that he is guilty. We don't need to guess who are which player(s) he assaulted.
Bottom-line It was missed but too many people afraid to speak up and question questionable behavior.


The discussion should be what clubs should do to educate and prevent this from happening again.

Car ride alone with the coach is huge No No. All Clubs should have a policy you give a player a ride alone your fired! Seems harsh but cars are often the place of first abuse. A a remote road in an area they are not familiar with what can a victim do? Hotel room never, even room alone to have a meeting(never).


Below is some is an example of what a good policy looks like from another sport..
Ask your child's program what their policies are! It's not about trust it's about putting proper best practices in place so it does not come down to trust.

It not just having these policies but sharing them with the parents and some cases the players so they understand the boundaries and can hold the programs accountable when they stray even innocently



Those working directly with Children should:
• respect the developmental stage of each athlete and not risk sacrificing their welfare in a desire for club or personal achievement
• ensure that the training intensity is appropriate to the physical, social and emotional stage of the development of the
• work with Parents and Children to develop training and competition schedules which are suited to the needs and the lifestyle of
the Rower, not the ambitions of the Parents, coaches, team managers or club
• build relationships based on mutual trust and respect, encouraging Children to take responsibility for their own development and
decision-making
• always be publicly open when working with Children:
– avoid coaching sessions or meetings where a coach and an individual Rower are completely unobserved
– keep Parents informed about the content and nature of any communications you have directly with their Children
including emails and text messages
– try to avoid one on one situations in changing rooms. If Children need to be supervised/helped try to involve
Parents or helpers
• maintain an appropriate and open environment, with no secrets
• avoid unnecessary physical contact with Children. Physical contact (touching) can be appropriate so long as:
– it is neither intrusive nor disturbing
– the reason that it is necessary has been fully explained
– the Rower’s permission has been openly given
– it is delivered in an open environment
• maintain a safe and appropriate relationship with Rowers. It is inappropriate for coaches and others in Positions of Trust to have
an intimate relationship with a Child under 18 years.
• be an excellent role model by maintaining appropriate standards of behaviour at social events and competitions

Safeguarding & Protecting Children Policy -
• gain written parental consent, to act in loco parentis for the administration of emergency First Aid or other medical treatment if
the need arises
• be aware of any medical conditions, existing injuries and medicines being taken. Keep a written record of any injury or accident
that occurs, together with details of any treatment given
• arrange that someone with appropriate training in and current knowledge of emergency First Aid is available
• gain written parental consent for any significant travel arrangements, especially if an overnight stay is involved
2.3 Poor practice
The following are regarded as poor practice and should be avoided:
• communicating directly with a Child without the Parents’ knowledge, this includes phoning, texting and emailing
• spending excessive amounts of time alone with Children away from others
• engaging in rough, physical or sexually provocative games
• allowing or engaging in inappropriate touching of any form
• using inappropriate language to a Child or allowing Children to use inappropriate language unchallenged
• making sexually suggestive comments to a Child, even in jest
• reducing a Child to tears as a form of control
• letting allegations made by a Child go uninvestigated, unrecorded, or not acted upon
• doing things of a personal nature that Children can do for themselves
• taking Children alone in a car on journeys, however short (see note below)
• inviting or taking Children to your home or office where they will be alone with you (see note below)
• sharing a room with a Child.
Note: In exceptional circumstances it may be impractical to avoid some of these particular examples of poor practice. In which case, to protect both
the Children and yourself, you must seek parental consent and also make sure that the CWO of your club/organisation is aware of the situation and gives
approval.
If whilst in your care a Child is accidentally hurt, the Child seems distressed in any way, appears to be sexually aroused by your actions, or
misunderstands or misinterprets something you have done, report any such incidents as soon as possible to another adult and make a brief
written note of it. Parents should also be informed of the incident.
2.4 Abuse
Abuse in all its forms can affect a Child at any age. The effects can be so damaging that without appropriate intervention, they may continue to
have a very negative impact upon an individual into adulthood.
An individual who has been abused may:
• find it difficult, or impossible to maintain a stable, trusting relationship
• become involved with drugs or prostitution
• attempt suicide or self-harm
• go on to abuse another Child.
Children with disabilities may be at increased risk of Abuse through various factors such as:
• stereotyping
• prejudice
• discrimination, including ethnic or racial
• isolation
• powerlessness to protect themselves
• inability to communicate that Abuse has occurred.
2.4.1 Indicators of abuse
Even for those experienced in working with Child Abuse, it is not always easy to recognise a situation where Abuse may occur or has already
taken place. It is not the responsibility of those working in rowing to decide that Child Abuse is occurring, but it is their responsibility to act on
any concerns.
Indications that a Child is being abused may include one or more of the following:
• unexplained or suspicious injuries such as bruising, cuts or burns, particularly if situated on a part of the body not normally prone
to such injuries or an injury for which an explanation seems inconsistent
• the Child describes what appears to be an abusive act involving him/her
• someone else, a Child or adult, expresses concern about the welfare of a Child
• unexplained changes in a Child’s behaviour, e.g. becoming very quiet, withdrawn, displaying sudden outbursts of temper or
behaviour changing over time
• inappropriate sexual awareness
• engaging in sexually explicit behaviour
• distrust of adults, particularly those with whom a close relationship would normally be expected
• difficulty in making friends
• being prevented from socialising with other Children
• displaying variations in eating patterns including overeating or loss of appetite
• losing weight for no apparent reason
• becoming increasingly dirty or unkempt.

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Please, no more details about his former player on here. This why victims are afraid to report these things. You obviously are in the know and based on his text message exchange there is little doubt after police became involved that he is guilty. We don't need to guess who are which player(s) he assaulted.
Bottom-line It was missed but too many people afraid to speak up and question questionable behavior.


The discussion should be what clubs should do to educate and prevent this from happening again.

Car ride alone with the coach is huge No No. All Clubs should have a policy you give a player a ride alone your fired! Seems harsh but cars are often the place of first abuse. A a remote road in an area they are not familiar with what can a victim do? Hotel room never, even room alone to have a meeting(never).


Below is some is an example of what a good policy looks like from another sport..
Ask your child's program what their policies are! It's not about trust it's about putting proper best practices in place so it does not come down to trust.

It not just having these policies but sharing them with the parents and some cases the players so they understand the boundaries and can hold the programs accountable when they stray even innocently



Those working directly with Children should:
• respect the developmental stage of each athlete and not risk sacrificing their welfare in a desire for club or personal achievement
• ensure that the training intensity is appropriate to the physical, social and emotional stage of the development of the
• work with Parents and Children to develop training and competition schedules which are suited to the needs and the lifestyle of
the Rower, not the ambitions of the Parents, coaches, team managers or club
• build relationships based on mutual trust and respect, encouraging Children to take responsibility for their own development and
decision-making
• always be publicly open when working with Children:
– avoid coaching sessions or meetings where a coach and an individual Rower are completely unobserved
– keep Parents informed about the content and nature of any communications you have directly with their Children
including emails and text messages
– try to avoid one on one situations in changing rooms. If Children need to be supervised/helped try to involve
Parents or helpers
• maintain an appropriate and open environment, with no secrets
• avoid unnecessary physical contact with Children. Physical contact (touching) can be appropriate so long as:
– it is neither intrusive nor disturbing
– the reason that it is necessary has been fully explained
– the Rower’s permission has been openly given
– it is delivered in an open environment
• maintain a safe and appropriate relationship with Rowers. It is inappropriate for coaches and others in Positions of Trust to have
an intimate relationship with a Child under 18 years.
• be an excellent role model by maintaining appropriate standards of behaviour at social events and competitions

Safeguarding & Protecting Children Policy -
• gain written parental consent, to act in loco parentis for the administration of emergency First Aid or other medical treatment if
the need arises
• be aware of any medical conditions, existing injuries and medicines being taken. Keep a written record of any injury or accident
that occurs, together with details of any treatment given
• arrange that someone with appropriate training in and current knowledge of emergency First Aid is available
• gain written parental consent for any significant travel arrangements, especially if an overnight stay is involved
2.3 Poor practice
The following are regarded as poor practice and should be avoided:
• communicating directly with a Child without the Parents’ knowledge, this includes phoning, texting and emailing
• spending excessive amounts of time alone with Children away from others
• engaging in rough, physical or sexually provocative games
• allowing or engaging in inappropriate touching of any form
• using inappropriate language to a Child or allowing Children to use inappropriate language unchallenged
• making sexually suggestive comments to a Child, even in jest
• reducing a Child to tears as a form of control
• letting allegations made by a Child go uninvestigated, unrecorded, or not acted upon
• doing things of a personal nature that Children can do for themselves
• taking Children alone in a car on journeys, however short (see note below)
• inviting or taking Children to your home or office where they will be alone with you (see note below)
• sharing a room with a Child.
Note: In exceptional circumstances it may be impractical to avoid some of these particular examples of poor practice. In which case, to protect both
the Children and yourself, you must seek parental consent and also make sure that the CWO of your club/organisation is aware of the situation and gives
approval.
If whilst in your care a Child is accidentally hurt, the Child seems distressed in any way, appears to be sexually aroused by your actions, or
misunderstands or misinterprets something you have done, report any such incidents as soon as possible to another adult and make a brief
written note of it. Parents should also be informed of the incident.
2.4 Abuse
Abuse in all its forms can affect a Child at any age. The effects can be so damaging that without appropriate intervention, they may continue to
have a very negative impact upon an individual into adulthood.
An individual who has been abused may:
• find it difficult, or impossible to maintain a stable, trusting relationship
• become involved with drugs or prostitution
• attempt suicide or self-harm
• go on to abuse another Child.
Children with disabilities may be at increased risk of Abuse through various factors such as:
• stereotyping
• prejudice
• discrimination, including ethnic or racial
• isolation
• powerlessness to protect themselves
• inability to communicate that Abuse has occurred.
2.4.1 Indicators of abuse
Even for those experienced in working with Child Abuse, it is not always easy to recognise a situation where Abuse may occur or has already
taken place. It is not the responsibility of those working in rowing to decide that Child Abuse is occurring, but it is their responsibility to act on
any concerns.
Indications that a Child is being abused may include one or more of the following:
• unexplained or suspicious injuries such as bruising, cuts or burns, particularly if situated on a part of the body not normally prone
to such injuries or an injury for which an explanation seems inconsistent
• the Child describes what appears to be an abusive act involving him/her
• someone else, a Child or adult, expresses concern about the welfare of a Child
• unexplained changes in a Child’s behaviour, e.g. becoming very quiet, withdrawn, displaying sudden outbursts of temper or
behaviour changing over time
• inappropriate sexual awareness
• engaging in sexually explicit behaviour
• distrust of adults, particularly those with whom a close relationship would normally be expected
• difficulty in making friends
• being prevented from socialising with other Children
• displaying variations in eating patterns including overeating or loss of appetite
• losing weight for no apparent reason
• becoming increasingly dirty or unkempt.

Way too much reading......here is my test. If you tell the coach you think you strained your calf and he says to drop your pants and he will take a look, chances are he is a predator.

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Way too much reading......here is my test. If you tell the coach you think you strained your calf and he says to drop your pants and he will take a look, chances are he is a predator.

Here's my test if news just broke about a sexual predator who was a long time local coach that worked for several local premier programs and high-school and college teams and a person jokes about it, then chances that person is an idiot.

You joke but these things happen way too often and there are typically multiple victims.
90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know there abuser!

You can bury your head in the sand. These coaches are "professional" coaches, parents are trusting and paying good money for a soccer education to there should be mandatory safe practice standards to protect all involved. If coaches practice these they protect themselves from false claims.

There is a specific CFC coach who tells that crude joke about calf strain and pants thing. If this happens to CFC United player(s) you can kiss that soccer park goodbye. You don't have safe practices in place and then plaintiff's lawyer subpoenas text messages and emails and they find a few off color jokes about players, you better have deep deep pockets even if your truly innocent. Place like Choate can weather the storm their 350 mil endowment can suffer the hit. You guys are month to month.

All parties should know the boundaries and never cross them. A player should never be alone with an adult coach. (car, hotel room, home, any non-public space). How many local clubs have this policy in place and actually educate the coaches and players and parents. I am sure these unsafe practices happen all the time and most are Innocent situations with someone being overly helpful. But again, 90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know their abuser. Your child should know that for even people you should be able to trust and consider a family friend, or that coach or teacher that gives your child that extra attention there should be boundaries they never cross.

Everyone tells their kids not to talk to strangers, don't approach man in a car asking for your help. But what conversation do you have with your child about coach or teacher about personal boundaries? These predators don't just run up and pull your pants down they groom their victims. Ask too many personal questions, offer to give personal attention to the special child.

I hope your not coach, if your are I bet you think a formal written coaching plan is waste of time and you just wing it. First time a fellow coach see's a player ride home with a coach conversation needs to be had that that is never acceptable instead you choose to tell him your off color joke about calf strain and pulling pants down.

Here are USSF guidelines for DA programs. Its shorter but covers basics.

Conduct:The Academy Staff promotes respect and good sportsmanship throughout the Development Academy and encourages qualities of mutual respect, courtesy and tolerance in all participants, coaches, officials and volunteers.
1. To protect youth participants, as well as coaches, officials and volunteers, it is strongly recommended that no adult person allow themselves to be alone with an individual child (unless their own child) or with any group of children during sponsored activities. In particular, it is recommended that coaches or other adult members of the Academy Club: • Do not drive alone with an individual child participant in the car. • Do not take an individual child alone to the locker room, bathrooms or any other private room. • Private conversations with youth participants should occur within the view of others, in the gym or on the field, instead of a private office or hotel room. • Coaches and other adult members of the Academy Club should not socialize individually with participants outside of sponsored activities[in the absence of participant’s parents].

2. Supervision/Chaperone ratio: It is recommended that for any sponsored activity, the ratio of adults to youth participants beat least 1:9 (1 adult for every 9children)with a minimum of 2 adults for every activity.

3. When traveling overnight with youth participants, children should be paired up with other children of the same gender and similar age group, and with chaperones in separate, but nearby rooms.

4. No child should be left alone at a training session or at any other time until they are
picked up by their parent, older sibling or other designated adult. It is recommended that the last adult in addition to the coach or trainer wait at the site until the child is picked up.

5. We want to empower our children to trust their feelings and let them know that their concerns, fears and hopes are important by listening to them. Open communication between children and parents, or between children and other adults in the organization may help early warning signs of abuse to surface.

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He promised a college scholarship path so they overlooked the weirdness

Is that not the CFC mantra? "Put up with our BS but because we are a college scholarship path"

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Here's my test if news just broke about a sexual predator who was a long time local coach that worked for several local premier programs and high-school and college teams and a person jokes about it, then chances that person is an idiot.

You joke but these things happen way too often and there are typically multiple victims.
90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know there abuser!

You can bury your head in the sand. These coaches are "professional" coaches, parents are trusting and paying good money for a soccer education to there should be mandatory safe practice standards to protect all involved. If coaches practice these they protect themselves from false claims.

There is a specific CFC coach who tells that crude joke about calf strain and pants thing. If this happens to CFC United player(s) you can kiss that soccer park goodbye. You don't have safe practices in place and then plaintiff's lawyer subpoenas text messages and emails and they find a few off color jokes about players, you better have deep deep pockets even if your truly innocent. Place like Choate can weather the storm their 350 mil endowment can suffer the hit. You guys are month to month.

All parties should know the boundaries and never cross them. A player should never be alone with an adult coach. (car, hotel room, home, any non-public space). How many local clubs have this policy in place and actually educate the coaches and players and parents. I am sure these unsafe practices happen all the time and most are Innocent situations with someone being overly helpful. But again, 90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know their abuser. Your child should know that for even people you should be able to trust and consider a family friend, or that coach or teacher that gives your child that extra attention there should be boundaries they never cross.

Everyone tells their kids not to talk to strangers, don't approach man in a car asking for your help. But what conversation do you have with your child about coach or teacher about personal boundaries? These predators don't just run up and pull your pants down they groom their victims. Ask too many personal questions, offer to give personal attention to the special child.

I hope your not coach, if your are I bet you think a formal written coaching plan is waste of time and you just wing it. First time a fellow coach see's a player ride home with a coach conversation needs to be had that that is never acceptable instead you choose to tell him your off color joke about calf strain and pulling pants down.

Here are USSF guidelines for DA programs. Its shorter but covers basics.

Conduct:The Academy Staff promotes respect and good sportsmanship throughout the Development Academy and encourages qualities of mutual respect, courtesy and tolerance in all participants, coaches, officials and volunteers.
1. To protect youth participants, as well as coaches, officials and volunteers, it is strongly recommended that no adult person allow themselves to be alone with an individual child (unless their own child) or with any group of children during sponsored activities. In particular, it is recommended that coaches or other adult members of the Academy Club: • Do not drive alone with an individual child participant in the car. • Do not take an individual child alone to the locker room, bathrooms or any other private room. • Private conversations with youth participants should occur within the view of others, in the gym or on the field, instead of a private office or hotel room. • Coaches and other adult members of the Academy Club should not socialize individually with participants outside of sponsored activities[in the absence of participant’s parents].

2. Supervision/Chaperone ratio: It is recommended that for any sponsored activity, the ratio of adults to youth participants beat least 1:9 (1 adult for every 9children)with a minimum of 2 adults for every activity.

3. When traveling overnight with youth participants, children should be paired up with other children of the same gender and similar age group, and with chaperones in separate, but nearby rooms.

4. No child should be left alone at a training session or at any other time until they are
picked up by their parent, older sibling or other designated adult. It is recommended that the last adult in addition to the coach or trainer wait at the site until the child is picked up.

5. We want to empower our children to trust their feelings and let them know that their concerns, fears and hopes are important by listening to them. Open communication between children and parents, or between children and other adults in the organization may help early warning signs of abuse to surface.

A lot of which you say certainly makes sense, but much of it seems geared more towards parents. Maybe in the DA, teams travel together and with coaches, but in the ECNL and my daughter’s team, players travel with their parent, or occasionally, with someone else’s parent. There would never be a situation like you describe. Good points about not leaving the area during practice time.

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Here's my test if news just broke about a sexual predator who was a long time local coach that worked for several local premier programs and high-school and college teams and a person jokes about it, then chances that person is an idiot.

You joke but these things happen way too often and there are typically multiple victims.
90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know there abuser!

You can bury your head in the sand. These coaches are "professional" coaches, parents are trusting and paying good money for a soccer education to there should be mandatory safe practice standards to protect all involved. If coaches practice these they protect themselves from false claims.

There is a specific CFC coach who tells that crude joke about calf strain and pants thing. If this happens to CFC United player(s) you can kiss that soccer park goodbye. You don't have safe practices in place and then plaintiff's lawyer subpoenas text messages and emails and they find a few off color jokes about players, you better have deep deep pockets even if your truly innocent. Place like Choate can weather the storm their 350 mil endowment can suffer the hit. You guys are month to month.

All parties should know the boundaries and never cross them. A player should never be alone with an adult coach. (car, hotel room, home, any non-public space). How many local clubs have this policy in place and actually educate the coaches and players and parents. I am sure these unsafe practices happen all the time and most are Innocent situations with someone being overly helpful. But again, 90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know their abuser. Your child should know that for even people you should be able to trust and consider a family friend, or that coach or teacher that gives your child that extra attention there should be boundaries they never cross.

Everyone tells their kids not to talk to strangers, don't approach man in a car asking for your help. But what conversation do you have with your child about coach or teacher about personal boundaries? These predators don't just run up and pull your pants down they groom their victims. Ask too many personal questions, offer to give personal attention to the special child.

I hope your not coach, if your are I bet you think a formal written coaching plan is waste of time and you just wing it. First time a fellow coach see's a player ride home with a coach conversation needs to be had that that is never acceptable instead you choose to tell him your off color joke about calf strain and pulling pants down.

Here are USSF guidelines for DA programs. Its shorter but covers basics.

Conduct:The Academy Staff promotes respect and good sportsmanship throughout the Development Academy and encourages qualities of mutual respect, courtesy and tolerance in all participants, coaches, officials and volunteers.
1. To protect youth participants, as well as coaches, officials and volunteers, it is strongly recommended that no adult person allow themselves to be alone with an individual child (unless their own child) or with any group of children during sponsored activities. In particular, it is recommended that coaches or other adult members of the Academy Club: • Do not drive alone with an individual child participant in the car. • Do not take an individual child alone to the locker room, bathrooms or any other private room. • Private conversations with youth participants should occur within the view of others, in the gym or on the field, instead of a private office or hotel room. • Coaches and other adult members of the Academy Club should not socialize individually with participants outside of sponsored activities[in the absence of participant’s parents].

2. Supervision/Chaperone ratio: It is recommended that for any sponsored activity, the ratio of adults to youth participants beat least 1:9 (1 adult for every 9children)with a minimum of 2 adults for every activity.

3. When traveling overnight with youth participants, children should be paired up with other children of the same gender and similar age group, and with chaperones in separate, but nearby rooms.

4. No child should be left alone at a training session or at any other time until they are
picked up by their parent, older sibling or other designated adult. It is recommended that the last adult in addition to the coach or trainer wait at the site until the child is picked up.

5. We want to empower our children to trust their feelings and let them know that their concerns, fears and hopes are important by listening to them. Open communication between children and parents, or between children and other adults in the organization may help early warning signs of abuse to surface.

Hey snowflake. I’m not a cfc coach. You seem he’ll bent on slandering the club.

I also would never let my kid travel with the coach. If you are stupid enough to do that, then you don’t deserve children and I feel bad for your kid. Wake up, there are predators out there. Whether it is at your posh private boarding school or your public school. Whether it is your clergyman, doctor family friend or coach. Happens very day because the predator finds naive, weak parents like you to prey on. The “joke” is a parent like you. Now go find a #metoo rally to preach to.

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A lot of which you say certainly makes sense, but much of it seems geared more towards parents. Maybe in the DA, teams travel together and with coaches, but in the ECNL and my daughter’s team, players travel with their parent, or occasionally, with someone else’s parent. There would never be a situation like you describe. Good points about not leaving the area during practice time.

Some ECNL clubs do group travel as well as some GDA clubs, but it's also mostly parent travel since there's virtually no free to play clubs. Group travel obviously helps reduce costs, promotes team bonding etc but also makes some families uncomfortable. You want your kids to have some freedom and be on their own but of course want to protect them at all times. Unfortunately girls also need to learn not to let themselves get into situations where they might be alone with a coach - because sadly they'll need it in life. Often times it's a gut feeling . Something just doesn't feel right, the hair on the back of your neck stands up. Always go with your gut, better safe than sorry. Parents have to have frequent discussions with their daughters.

Statistically things like this still are very rare. Most clubs do their best to vet coaches but some predators just haven't gotten caught yet so nothing will show up on a background check. This is where anyone checking on a hire needs to network and make lots of phone calls. Big corporate HR departments won't tell you anything beyond salary and employment dates, but you can often get inside info with smaller firms via networking. A guy like this who bounced around quite a bit is a red flag.

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Is that not the CFC mantra? "Put up with our BS but because we are a college scholarship path"

In fact a recent email about last minute branch tryouts said pretty much that.

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Is that not the CFC mantra? "Put up with our BS but because we are a college scholarship path"

CFC coaches are college coaches. They bang college women

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Here's my test if news just broke about a sexual predator who was a long time local coach that worked for several local premier programs and high-school and college teams and a person jokes about it, then chances that person is an idiot.

You joke but these things happen way too often and there are typically multiple victims.
90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know there abuser!

You can bury your head in the sand. These coaches are "professional" coaches, parents are trusting and paying good money for a soccer education to there should be mandatory safe practice standards to protect all involved. If coaches practice these they protect themselves from false claims.

There is a specific CFC coach who tells that crude joke about calf strain and pants thing. If this happens to CFC United player(s) you can kiss that soccer park goodbye. You don't have safe practices in place and then plaintiff's lawyer subpoenas text messages and emails and they find a few off color jokes about players, you better have deep deep pockets even if your truly innocent. Place like Choate can weather the storm their 350 mil endowment can suffer the hit. You guys are month to month.

All parties should know the boundaries and never cross them. A player should never be alone with an adult coach. (car, hotel room, home, any non-public space). How many local clubs have this policy in place and actually educate the coaches and players and parents. I am sure these unsafe practices happen all the time and most are Innocent situations with someone being overly helpful. But again, 90% percent of child sexual abuse victims know their abuser. Your child should know that for even people you should be able to trust and consider a family friend, or that coach or teacher that gives your child that extra attention there should be boundaries they never cross.

Everyone tells their kids not to talk to strangers, don't approach man in a car asking for your help. But what conversation do you have with your child about coach or teacher about personal boundaries? These predators don't just run up and pull your pants down they groom their victims. Ask too many personal questions, offer to give personal attention to the special child.

I hope your not coach, if your are I bet you think a formal written coaching plan is waste of time and you just wing it. First time a fellow coach see's a player ride home with a coach conversation needs to be had that that is never acceptable instead you choose to tell him your off color joke about calf strain and pulling pants down.

Here are USSF guidelines for DA programs. Its shorter but covers basics.

Conduct:The Academy Staff promotes respect and good sportsmanship throughout the Development Academy and encourages qualities of mutual respect, courtesy and tolerance in all participants, coaches, officials and volunteers.
1. To protect youth participants, as well as coaches, officials and volunteers, it is strongly recommended that no adult person allow themselves to be alone with an individual child (unless their own child) or with any group of children during sponsored activities. In particular, it is recommended that coaches or other adult members of the Academy Club: • Do not drive alone with an individual child participant in the car. • Do not take an individual child alone to the locker room, bathrooms or any other private room. • Private conversations with youth participants should occur within the view of others, in the gym or on the field, instead of a private office or hotel room. • Coaches and other adult members of the Academy Club should not socialize individually with participants outside of sponsored activities[in the absence of participant’s parents].

2. Supervision/Chaperone ratio: It is recommended that for any sponsored activity, the ratio of adults to youth participants beat least 1:9 (1 adult for every 9children)with a minimum of 2 adults for every activity.

3. When traveling overnight with youth participants, children should be paired up with other children of the same gender and similar age group, and with chaperones in separate, but nearby rooms.

4. No child should be left alone at a training session or at any other time until they are
picked up by their parent, older sibling or other designated adult. It is recommended that the last adult in addition to the coach or trainer wait at the site until the child is picked up.

5. We want to empower our children to trust their feelings and let them know that their concerns, fears and hopes are important by listening to them. Open communication between children and parents, or between children and other adults in the organization may help early warning signs of abuse to surface.

Ok, thank you for the lecture Mr Good Samaritan. I feel so much better prepared now. Thank you for your wisdom.

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Ok, thank you for the lecture Mr Good Samaritan. I feel so much better prepared now. Thank you for your wisdom.

You are most welcome. Stay safe, buttercup