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    So what should coaches look for in parents

    1. First of all I want parents to be realistic about their kid's talents. You kid is most definitely not going pro and most likely will not play in college; He or she are not good enough. No amount of coaching can compensate for a lack of talent.

    2, Stop coaching from the side lines!!! I tell my players what formations to play and our strategy and then you give your kid conflicting information. Cheer your kids on.

    3. Stop screaming at every off side, foul, PK that does not go your way.

    4. PAY YOUR TRAVEL FEES, TOURNAMENT FEES, CLUB FEES WHAT EVER ON TIME. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF DELIQUENT PARENTS THAT THEY CAN PLAY WHEN EVER THEY WANT WHEN THEY WANT. TORUNAMENTS WANT THEIR MONEY NOW. WE CAN NOT PAY HALF NOW AND HALF LATER.

    5. If you do not like me as a coach or our team...THEN PLEASE LEAVE!!!!! STOP BEING A CANCER ON THE TEAM. WE WILL BE JUST FINE WITH OUT YOUR KID
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    Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
    1. First of all I want parents to be realistic about their kid's talents. You kid is most definitely not going pro and most likely will not play in college; He or she are not good enough. No amount of coaching can compensate for a lack of talent.

    2, Stop coaching from the side lines!!! I tell my players what formations to play and our strategy and then you give your kid conflicting information. Cheer your kids on.

    3. Stop screaming at every off side, foul, PK that does not go your way.

    4. PAY YOUR TRAVEL FEES, TOURNAMENT FEES, CLUB FEES WHAT EVER ON TIME. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF DELIQUENT PARENTS THAT THEY CAN PLAY WHEN EVER THEY WANT WHEN THEY WANT. TORUNAMENTS WANT THEIR MONEY NOW. WE CAN NOT PAY HALF NOW AND HALF LATER.

    5. If you do not like me as a coach or our team...THEN PLEASE LEAVE!!!!! STOP BEING A CANCER ON THE TEAM. WE WILL BE JUST FINE WITH OUT YOUR KID
    If you were any kind of coach the parents wouldn't have to coach from sidelines.
    But its really funny the only thing our coach wants and you seem to want as well is MONEY.
    Any coach I've ever been involved with for 15 years now is $$$$$. Been to ODP, College Camps, special training sessions, 3v3, ID2. All focused on the $$$. Everything else is a bunch of CRAP. You capitalized everything that involves money because thats the really important thing to you.
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      #3
      Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
      1. First of all I want parents to be realistic about their kid's talents. You kid is most definitely not going pro and most likely will not play in college; He or she are not good enough. No amount of coaching can compensate for a lack of talent.

      2, Stop coaching from the side lines!!! I tell my players what formations to play and our strategy and then you give your kid conflicting information. Cheer your kids on.

      3. Stop screaming at every off side, foul, PK that does not go your way.

      4. PAY YOUR TRAVEL FEES, TOURNAMENT FEES, CLUB FEES WHAT EVER ON TIME. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF DELIQUENT PARENTS THAT THEY CAN PLAY WHEN EVER THEY WANT WHEN THEY WANT. TORUNAMENTS WANT THEIR MONEY NOW. WE CAN NOT PAY HALF NOW AND HALF LATER.

      5. If you do not like me as a coach or our team...THEN PLEASE LEAVE!!!!! STOP BEING A CANCER ON THE TEAM. WE WILL BE JUST FINE WITH OUT YOUR KID
      Ok you pretty much sound like a desperate coach who has no clue what you are doing. Sounds like you create your own mess. Try a new job.
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        the size of their wallets!!!
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          #5
          Raise your hands if you'd work for $2 an hour. I would guess every hand would stay down. Why should anyone volunteer for a job. THis is their JOB!! What you all missing? Go to work next week and refuse your paycheck. or, go volunteer your time away from your family on Holidays like this weekend, or thanksgiving , or ..
          Money is important to all of us and our family.
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            Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
            1. First of all I want parents to be realistic about their kid's talents. You kid is most definitely not going pro and most likely will not play in college; He or she are not good enough. No amount of coaching can compensate for a lack of talent.

            2, Stop coaching from the side lines!!! I tell my players what formations to play and our strategy and then you give your kid conflicting information. Cheer your kids on.

            3. Stop screaming at every off side, foul, PK that does not go your way.

            4. PAY YOUR TRAVEL FEES, TOURNAMENT FEES, CLUB FEES WHAT EVER ON TIME. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF DELIQUENT PARENTS THAT THEY CAN PLAY WHEN EVER THEY WANT WHEN THEY WANT. TORUNAMENTS WANT THEIR MONEY NOW. WE CAN NOT PAY HALF NOW AND HALF LATER.

            5. If you do not like me as a coach or our team...THEN PLEASE LEAVE!!!!! STOP BEING A CANCER ON THE TEAM. WE WILL BE JUST FINE WITH OUT YOUR KID
            I actually agree with all of this. Too many parents are way to involved. Coaching from the sideline and screaming at ref's should never be accepted. Most parents have no idea what they are talking about anyway. Pay your fee's on time. Unfortunately tournaments cost money and someone has to pay for them. The last point is spot on. If you are not happy leave. there are other options. Stop being negative all the time it spreads to the kids. Lastly just enjoy and be thankful that you are watching your kid play. This won't last forever!
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              Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
              1. First of all I want parents to be realistic about their kid's talents. You kid is most definitely not going pro and most likely will not play in college; He or she are not good enough. No amount of coaching can compensate for a lack of talent.

              2, Stop coaching from the side lines!!! I tell my players what formations to play and our strategy and then you give your kid conflicting information. Cheer your kids on.

              3. Stop screaming at every off side, foul, PK that does not go your way.

              4. PAY YOUR TRAVEL FEES, TOURNAMENT FEES, CLUB FEES WHAT EVER ON TIME. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF DELIQUENT PARENTS THAT THEY CAN PLAY WHEN EVER THEY WANT WHEN THEY WANT. TORUNAMENTS WANT THEIR MONEY NOW. WE CAN NOT PAY HALF NOW AND HALF LATER.

              5. If you do not like me as a coach or our team...THEN PLEASE LEAVE!!!!! STOP BEING A CANCER ON THE TEAM. WE WILL BE JUST FINE WITH OUT YOUR KID
              1. Time for you to either change your attitude of coaching or quit coaching. This world we live in is based on something called "Hope for the Best" Teachers/coaches lead this path for little kids. That is the fundamental requirement of coaching. Because we all die oneday, that cannot stop us from functioning today. Michael Jordan was also not meant to be a pro player according to some judgements. Oscar Pistorious is not supposed to be sprinting?....

              2-5: in absolute agreement
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                Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                1. Time for you to either change your attitude of coaching or quit coaching. This world we live in is based on something called "Hope for the Best" Teachers/coaches lead this path for little kids. That is the fundamental requirement of coaching. Because we all die oneday, that cannot stop us from functioning today. Michael Jordan was also not meant to be a pro player according to some judgements. Oscar Pistorious is not supposed to be sprinting?....

                2-5: in absolute agreement
                I agree on point one - it sounds very un-American to be saying basically don't reach too high. Can you imagine a teacher telling a parent something along those lines?!
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                  Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                  1. Time for you to either change your attitude of coaching or quit coaching. This world we live in is based on something called "Hope for the Best" Teachers/coaches lead this path for little kids. That is the fundamental requirement of coaching. Because we all die oneday, that cannot stop us from functioning today. Michael Jordan was also not meant to be a pro player according to some judgements. Oscar Pistorious is not supposed to be sprinting?....

                  2-5: in absolute agreement
                  I think the poster for #1 is talking about the parents expecting unrealistic results based on their kids ability. This does not mean the coach is not coaching to the best of his ability. Most parents have not played no less played at a high level. The money it cost nowadays to play has given the parents a sense of entitlement and not being realistic at times on where their kid fits in.
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                    Coaching Kids is not a Job

                    Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                    Raise your hands if you'd work for $2 an hour. I would guess every hand would stay down. Why should anyone volunteer for a job. THis is their JOB!! What you all missing? Go to work next week and refuse your paycheck. or, go volunteer your time away from your family on Holidays like this weekend, or thanksgiving , or ..
                    Money is important to all of us and our family.
                    Coaching kids is not a job. How misguided are coaches sucking the scraps off of the end of the table for a few dollars and calling it a job. Coaching kids is something that you do to give back to the game and help the next generation of players.
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                      Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                      I think the poster for #1 is talking about the parents expecting unrealistic results based on their kids ability. This does not mean the coach is not coaching to the best of his ability. Most parents have not played no less played at a high level. The money it cost nowadays to play has given the parents a sense of entitlement and not being realistic at times on where their kid fits in.
                      I always see many of the coaches/DOCs come here and generalise parents as being nut cases. BE REALISTIC. These parents who chose or support their kids choice to play soccer are the BEST parents of this whole world, because soccer is the top game. Unfortunately mostly all the time, we do not get the BEST COACHES, they are at an acute shortage and hence settle for crappy accents and many losers. Some of them have played good soccer but lack leadership/character building qualities, gone through rough life and that is why they think UNFAIR is normal and become part of that problem and then there are coaches who are very nice people but do not have soccer skills.

                      Basically, if coaches focus on soccer and maintain their cool and are approachable, things will be far better for them. If they do not know what they are doing, if they do not strategies and plan ahead for a practice/game/season and take time to know their players / parents behaviours and find a way to deal with that, they will suffer. If they really had that common-sense approach or ability, they may not even become soccer coaches, probably become administrators! There will never be a time for a team not to have problem parents in kids sports, but not having a strategy year over year by the coaches and AVOIDANCE approach just makes it hell for coaches/teams and as a result player development suffers.
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                        Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                        Coaching kids is not a job. How misguided are coaches sucking the scraps off of the end of the table for a few dollars and calling it a job. Coaching kids is something that you do to give back to the game and help the next generation of players.
                        Almost all of the coaches don't do this for money but the love of the game. However do not think it has not become a job at some level. Parents have become way too involved which requires coaches to spend way too much time putting out fires and dealing with politics. The money they do make is usually less than minimum wage when you add up all the hours they put in.
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                          Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                          If you were any kind of coach the parents wouldn't have to coach from sidelines.
                          But its really funny the only thing our coach wants and you seem to want as well is MONEY.
                          Any coach I've ever been involved with for 15 years now is $$$$$. Been to ODP, College Camps, special training sessions, 3v3, ID2. All focused on the $$$. Everything else is a bunch of CRAP. You capitalized everything that involves money because thats the really important thing to you.
                          Point is I am coaching and it is fun and your kids are having fun. You have the unrealistic expectations that your kid is going to D-1 or even pro. If you think you can assist then please by all means volunteer to be my assistant but be carefull because when I play your kid the other parents will accuse you of being a Daddy coach and the only reason your kid is playing is because you are helping me

                          Do you really think I am getting rich coaching? Really, I coach three nights per week and give up many holidays for holiday tournaments. I drive kids and I pay out of pocket for less fortunate kids. Mot coaches do this. I have to look at 14 year old in the eye and tell him he is not playing because it is tournament and he has not been playing well and we have to win or parents like you will flip out because we lost. Then the parents of that kid will call me up and bitch me out for not paying there star who missed two of three practices last week.

                          BUT THE BOTTOM LINE IS WOULD YOU DO YOUR JOB RIGHT NOW FOR FREE? if not be quite
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                            Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                            I always see many of the coaches/DOCs come here and generalise parents as being nut cases. BE REALISTIC. These parents who chose or support their kids choice to play soccer are the BEST parents of this whole world, because soccer is the top game. Unfortunately mostly all the time, we do not get the BEST COACHES, they are at an acute shortage and hence settle for crappy accents and many losers. Some of them have played good soccer but lack leadership/character building qualities, gone through rough life and that is why they think UNFAIR is normal and become part of that problem and then there are coaches who are very nice people but do not have soccer skills.

                            Basically, if coaches focus on soccer and maintain their cool and are approachable, things will be far better for them. If they do not know what they are doing, if they do not strategies and plan ahead for a practice/game/season and take time to know their players / parents behaviours and find a way to deal with that, they will suffer. If they really had that common-sense approach or ability, they may not even become soccer coaches, probably become administrators! There will never be a time for a team not to have problem parents in kids sports, but not having a strategy year over year by the coaches and AVOIDANCE approach just makes it hell for coaches/teams and as a result player development suffers.
                            Spoken like a parent who spends a lot of money/time on soccer and feels they are entitled. If you are not happy with your coach/club then leave. It's easy. Coaches shouldn't have to figure out parents personalities and how to deal with them. That's not their job.
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                              Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
                              I agree on point one - it sounds very un-American to be saying basically don't reach too high. Can you imagine a teacher telling a parent something along those lines?!
                              I never said do not reach high, do not have unrealistic expectations. Look I like to draw but I will never be an artist no matter if Picasso him self was my coach. I have no talent. Sure I can get decent at best but talent trumps everything. The reality is the majority of kids do not have the talent to be D1 or DII and definitely will not go pro

                              I have coached for years and I can tell you that you can tell as early as age 7 who really has talent. Kids that were great at 7,8,9,10 years old stay great at 17,18,19 years old. I have never seen a mediocre kid at age 8 become a star talent at age 18
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